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I
have been in this field for almost 10 years now, working with women
directly through Tantric massage, and teaching Tantric sexuality
in a variety of formats to individuals and couples.
I am a professional who is dedicated completely to the research
and work in Tantric sexuality only - full-time, 24/7, as the work
of my life. I do not dedicate my time to any other therapies or
teaching subjects.
I started working in this filed with the help of some masters of
Tantric sexuality who instructed me in the base of understanding
and practice. However, the real foundation foundation of my professional
knowledge is my extensive experience over the last 10 years. I am
a dedicated researcher and I teach what has been firmly tried and
tested in my practice, personal and professional.
My work integrates a blend of Tantric ideas, Taoist ideas, western
sexuality and many of my own ideas - observations from practice,
personal and professional. My aim is to present Tantric sexuality
in a common sense way to any couple who would like to discover more
love and plentitude in their sex life, so I keep it down to earth
- what I know to work realistically.
Occasionally I work in conjunction with other teachers or therapists
(e.g. psychotherapists). When I am not with clients in London I
spend my time on theoretical work. I always extensively research
the field of sexuality further. And I am writing some material I
am hoping to publish soon.
My Story.
My journey into Eastern philosophies and spiritual disciplines
began at the age of 14 when I felt I had to find some meaning and
explored everything I could from the books I read, courses I attended
and teachers I found. My family travelled a lot and, geographically,
I was exposed to many of the great Eurasian traditions to draw on.
On this background of my spiritual growth, at the age of 18 I began
noticing something curious in my relationships with women. They
confessed that sexual intimacy with me was something unique, deeply
positive and therapeutic, unusual for guys of my age.
I was wondering about it when I met my first teacher, while travelling
in South America in my early twenties. She was a true master of
Tantric sexuality who led a reclusive life in South American wilderness
and she shared her wisdom very personally. I spent quite a long
time with her, she helped me make sense of this phenomenon in me,
understand how to use it consciously, and she educated me on Tantric
intimacy between men and women.
That was when this innate aptitude in my personal life became my
profession. I got back to UK with a feeling that I should use my
gifts to to help others. I had a theraputic massage practice at
the time (Qualified from the Crimean Medical State University) and
I began doing Tantric massages for some of my clients. By 2003 my
Tantric massages were succesful enough to let me dedicate myself
to this as a full-time profession.
Over the last decade I have been constantly refining and expanding
my Tantric Massage, learning from experience, researching through
reality of working directly with the body. It has become more than
just a healing or sensual exploration session, it has evolved into
a direct way to show a client, and teach her, how she can walk into
sexual happiness on her own. My practice has been the main way of
seeing what is real, what really works as opposed to what just sounds
like a desirable theory. I have had all kinds of clients and situations
in my studio, many of which were a challenge to approach for any
professional.
For several years now I have also been working very successfully
with couples to teach them the ways of Tantric intimacy. My understanding
is not just in female sexuality - it is also about the man and my
work is always about both.
Over these years I have also been influenced by various masters
of Tantric sexuality. I probably wouldn't support the majority of
Tantric sexuality teachers, workshops and books well-established
in the West as I see too little reality and essence in them. I have,
however, sought for a more genuine kind of a teacher and I have
had the good fortune of finding several modest and away-from-the-hype
knowledgeable masters who helped me develop further as a Tantric
guide.
Tantra is the way of experience, not academics, so learning from
my own personal love life has been a major part of my understanding.
I think it has to be the main source of knowledge for any sexuality
guide. I am grateful for it to every woman with who I talked through
her body and her mind and what I know now is not academics - it
is my observations from innumerable experiences in daily life and
with all kinds of people. I am now in a relationship with my long-term
partner with who we have discovered a great deal in the Tntric dimension,
and I draw on this experience a lot too.
My Qualifications
I don't have certification in Tantric sexuality (read my story
above).
I don't believe such a thing can exist.
When I started working in this field there were very few people
in it, and no qualifications. Now there are lots of professionals
in this field, each with a long list of qualifications in New Age
modalities, and lots of people offering qualifications.
I think it is great that more people try to do this work and they
try to learn about it constructively.
However, my own qualifications are a little more "old school":
- I have 10 years of dedicated experience in working and researching
in this field, including working extensively on the practical level
with Tantric massages.
- I learned with several deeply knowledgeable Tantric sexuality
masters during my travels and in my work...however, certification
was of no interest to anyone involved
- My understanding also comes from vast personal experience, my
knowledge has been confirmed in real life with many women to who
I am grateful for connecting intimately with me, and I don't teach
anything I have no first-hand experience of.
I feel these are the things that qualify me.
You can see if my words on the website ring true to you. You can
call me for a free initial consultation on the phone and hear what
I have to suggest to you personally, at no commitment. You can even
talk to some of my clients. That will tell you if I am the right
person for you.
This is an unregulated field and there are no accrediting bodies.
It is not because no one has got round to standartising it yet,
it is because sexuality is impossible to put into boxes. So qualifications
don't really mean much in terms of credentials, as anyone can give
them, receive them or create an association. Neither does a range
of certificates in other therapies, or indeed academic psychotherapy,
qualify anyone to work with the unique qualities of sexual energy
directly. No amount of yoga, meditation and chakra knowledge can
make Tantric sex really feel like sex, rather than a breathing exercise.
Particularly important is qualification through personal experience
and development in sexuality - if one wants to be a professional
one has to walk a long path as a Tantric lover in a wide variety
of partners and scenarios.
No course will teach one how to work with sexual energy truly.
To work as a Tantric sexuality guide, especially on the bodily level,
a very special aptitude and sensitivity is needed, even a gift,
and many years of growth, learning and experience. There is no authority
and no academic merit here. People come into this field from all
walks of life and the only real qualification is their natural talent,
experience and professional growth. A Tantric master doesn't get
"trained", a Tantric master grows through his own life
and passion.
Everything else is peripheral. I have a good knowledge of sexual
anatomy and physiology from my training as a medical massage therapist.
I am studying Pyschotherapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to
add it for some of my clients as a little extra tool. I am as familiar
with all the scientific research as any qualified sex therapist
and the stuff that is taught in many of the Tantra Facilitator courses
is far back in my past as a professional. But none of that is what
is central to any Tantric guide.
Why I do This
The question of why I should be doing this job never comes up for
me any more. I was born with a gift and I was helped to discover
how to use it. This is my purpose in life, this is what I am. Many
of my clients tell me that what I give is important and unique and
sometimes I change their lives. I couldn't do this more in any other
area.
I also believe that the right vision of sexuality is very important
for the happiness of many people and for our growth as a collective
consciousness, and I see a chance to apply my gifts to help. This
gives me incedible fulfilment and joy. My London practice is just
one of the things I do in this field and I am dedicated to sharing
these ideas with others for the rest of my life in any form I can
find.
I am in a beautiful relationship with my partner. We are deeply
in love and we have the most amazing Tantric sex of my life which
lets me bring more and more knowledge to people. There is nothing
more I could be looking for. She believes in what I do and she supports
me fully, because she can relate to women's issues. My job doesn't
rob her of anything. Because I have her I have more love to give
during my massages, and because I do these massages I have more
love to bring to her.
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