Tantric sex can open a whole new dimension of sexual happiness to both
men and women but it is particularly important for a woman.
You can even say that without exploring the Tantric understanding of
lovemaking a woman will never find her full potential.
What we now know about sex is a result of scientific research. Scientific
principles came from very male qualities - straight logic and organised
hard facts. Making love is not like this, it is emotional, philosophical,
creative, the body is not separated from mind and heart. Science has described
the physiological reflexes as the heart of sex - for women too, and now
female sexuality is seen as similar to the more simple male sexuality.
This is why you get a certain degree of satisfaction but you feel something
deeper is missing, you are not fully expressed, fully fulfilled. This
is why many women have great insecurities in their performace, or downright
sexual difficulties. This is why women are often hurt, phsyically and
emotionally, in sex. It is just a lack of the right understanding - female
sexuality is approached in too simplistic and basic a manner, where it
will never have a chance to open and flourish.
Your body has been gravely misrepresented, to the point of you not knowing
the truth about your body yourself any more. A female body is much more
delicate, sophisticated and linked to her emotions and mind than the male
body. Only through the right mind-body-heart connection can a woman become
truly sexually alive. Yet conventional sex never goes there. Only through
Tantric sex can you explore that connection.
What gets you beyond just physiology is conscious tenderness, gentleness,
relaxation, beauty, emotionality, connection. All the things that you
never see a sex manual on. That is what makes you truly open as a sexual
being. Without those a woman is not really sexually alive, she is just
a machine being turned on. It is not a spontaneous happening, those things
have to become conscious and intentional. Only the Tantric vision can
give real practical advice on this, how this relates to the pleasure in
Tantric sex is first of all about love. Not just about truly responding
to love given, but also about inspiring with your own love, making it
a physical reality that comes from you in intimacy, creating it yourself
instead of expecting it. Have you ever felt you were not loved in sex?
Can you, in all honesty say, you did all you could to make your body an
expression of love to inspire him yourself? Conventianal sex manuals don't
teach you this.