When I first came to see Alexey I was deeply unhappy about the sexual aspect of my life; I felt not only dislocated from my sexuality, but also frightened, and even angry about it. Visiting a tantric practitioner wasn’t an easy option (to be honest, I was terrified), but I was even more scared of staying as I was. As conflicted as I was about sex, I knew that I needed to re-integrate that part of myself to feel whole……

…From seemingly uncontrollable panic attacks and a sense of powerlessness, I now find myself enjoying sex, without pain, without fear, but instead with real pleasure and intimacy. No one could be more surprised than me, and yet, now I’m here, it feels entirely natural. Rather than treating my feelings as a problem which needed correcting, Alexey gave me the space, guidance and support to heal, and to understand my own sexuality.

There’s no way I can fully describe what Alexey’s sessions did for me. I contacted him because I didn’t have an orgasm during sex. I was emotionally abused by men, felt small. I felt like I didn’t have a right to have pleasure and enjoy sex. I was so disconnected from my body, was living in my head 24/7…

…Alexey showed me how to be present while enjoying my sexuality, how to give and receive love. He changed my whole notion of what sex is. It’s not just a sexual intercourse where men come and that’s it. It’s about two people connecting and sharing love. I fully embraced my sensuality, my femininity, my birth right to enjoy my sexuality. I’m at a place now where I can have the sexual intimacy I desire, no matter where my partner is at, because I can show them.

You are very lucky if you get a chance in your lifetime to experience what Alexey can and has taught me. Alexey taught me how to understand myself sexually, such a private place. I met Alexey when I was 42, I was reaching a sexual peak, I thought I was having passionate and great sex life but (unconsciously) related sex with men, guilt, shame and complete heart break. I often felt like I lost a
piece of myself after sex…

…I have and now know myself, and my sexual energy is not so needy, so wanting, so give me give me. And that has given me and our relationship a huge difference. And I am growing and not shrinking which I normally do when I am in a sexual relationship. It has certainly brought me closer to my spirituality, to my soul. And it is exciting and peaceful all at the same time.

When I first contacted Alexey I felt like I had reached either a dead end or a turning point in my sexual life. It was for me to choose which… My experience of intimacy with men so far had been unrewarding, humiliating and also painful at times. Typically, with little self-esteem and no experience I had attracted men who felt unconfident about sex and tried to make up for it by being insensitive. It had led me to believe that the sacred space I instinctively felt I wanted to share in intimacy either did not exist or was of no interest to men…

…But my sexual life has already been completely transformed by the few sessions I have had so far, as simply giving me the confidence in who I can be with men and the space I can hold for a partner had led me to enjoying sex in a way I had never done before. I feel that I can approach the prospect of intimacy relaxedly and happily where I was tense and fearful before, and ensure that the experience is (highly!) rewarding for both myself and my partner.

There are some experiences in life (and some people that you meet) that can shift the balance of your beliefs in the most positive way… I can’t remember all the reasons why I started to delve into the idea of holistic sexuality or tantra. But I do know I had fallen into a trap of destructive behaviour: encouraging flings/affairs with men who showed no real respect for me. Compromising myself and my long term relationship. Engraving a feeling of guilt, frustration and mistrust into my core….

…I finally began to see myself as a beautiful, strong, intelligent woman. I didn’t need to live a life of self torment. I had a heart and soul and I could accept/give love. From our first meeting I knew he would stay an important presence in my life. Through his amazingly intuitive touch, our deep (and always intriguing) conversations and his vast wealth of knowledge (which he shares so selflessly) he offered me the ability to believe in my own beauty (both internal and external).

I was very insecure about my sexuality and my femininity. I was quite informed on sex on the usual level, I am popular with men and had a lot of experience but I was always left with a feeling that something was wrong in how it happened and, looking back now, I often unknowingly found myself in situations which were destructive for my sense of self-worth as a woman. I found it difficult to find how to enjoy my sexuality in a way that brought me any real happiness…

…This has been something that has impacted me in a very positive way. I would dare saying it was life changing, definitely for my self esteem in the sexuality domain. In many ways I have found how to be happy and also confident in my sex life. A journey that has allowed me to learn how this sexual energy really can be in me and how I can take care of it.

I had a ton of fears and hang ups about men and intimacy. I felt disappointed that I’d not managed to release my ‘stuff’ about sex, and depressed and intimidated about the idea of dating again.

Today, all my lovers have been exciting and beautiful experiences and I am still with my current lover. I can have detailed conversations with him about sex, which feels amazing to me, and I am totally relaxed most of the time to try new things (which used to utterly freak me out.). I no longer feel terrified. I feel totally empowered during sex, really enjoy it, and feel equal to my partner. I am a completely different person thanks to all of Alexey’s help. I am so much happier, and I feel so free.


My introduction to Tantric sex began when I came across Alexey some months ago, after a devastating marriage breakup many years previously and a long term sexual relationship which left me emotionally dead. In the past I had often felt hollow both during and after sex. I had no problem thinking about doing it, it was just when the moment came that I always seemed to be somewhere else. Sex became mechanical and in the end it left me emotionally wrecked.…

…My experience of tantric sexuality flows into everything else that I do and how I do it. I can’t believe how much happier and confident I have become. I smile a lot more. And I am even grateful to the devastations in my personal life that led me to discover Alexey in the first place because I am so much richer for having discovered him and I wouldn’t go back for anything.

When I first went to see Alexey I had lost interest in sex. I was naturally a sexual person but it never quite hit the spot I thought it would. Sex would always fizzle out and I would just do it for my partners because I was bored. I couldn’t show this though, so I would pretend, and that was hugely detrimental…

Since learning from Alexey I am more joyful, more creative and more courageous than I ever have been. I have never felt so powerful and connected to a person in sex. I have never experienced such profound sexual energies. I never knew that my body could feel this way, and am discovering new things about it every day. Now I can’t wait to have sex, to continue my exploring, through my body, because every time is different when it comes from a place of honesty and love. My sex drive is totally back, and I have used these tools to teach my present partner how profound love making can be, and it has totally blown him away too. It’s a very empowering energy that I can take into lots of areas of my life…

When I look back at the girl I was before I started working with Alexey and compare her to the woman I am now, I marvel at just how much things have changed. Often, Alexey works with women who don’t feel very sexual or have difficulty experiencing sexual enjoyment. I had the opposite problem, but it’s two sides of the same coin. I felt incredibly sexual all the time and I didn’t know how to handle it…

…I learnt about and experienced true sexual satisfaction and happiness. Plus, I felt things in my body that feel far better than any orgasm. (truly!) Not only that, but as I work in the creative arts, Alexey taught me that sexual energy and creative energy are one and the same thing. I started to have this wonderful feeling that I was perfect just as I was, with all my so called ‘imperfections.’ I am now in a very happy sexual relationship with a really wonderful man. Life is really good now and I’m truly sexually/creatively fulfilled.

My first appointment with Alexey came during a particularly challenging time in my life; an unhappy relationship, low self esteem  & and issues around trusting men. My husband and I strived for high intensity, passionate sex, which was becoming increasingly stressful; just to try to feel higher…

…We now enjoy sexual intimacy daily, whether just holding each other close or more. Each time is beautiful, completely unique and brings us what we both need on a daily basis. The incredible intimacy we share only reinforces that love we have for each other and strengthens our relationship with each passing day.

I came to the sessions rather frustrated, disheartened by intimacy as a result of past relationships and clouded by issues surrounding my body.  Basically I carried around a lot of baggage- it was weighing me down and preventing me from enjoying being with someone, or allowing myself to be me.   I had reached a point where I had resigned myself to a life behind self-protective barriers…

…Sessions with Alexey have been a really wonderful, and insightful experience for me.  Through my time with him I have, and continue to grow in confidence and my ability to embrace intimacy, learning more about myself and leaving past baggage behind. I am developing a new love for myself that I thought I had lost.

I came to see Alexey because I had sought this kind of healing work – although he doesn’t really call it healing or therapy, nor is it work – as a kind of enquiry into a part of myself that needed revival…

… It turned into an aspect of adulthood apprenticeship. This should be in our lives. Far from the squeamish or rampant hysteria that usually accompanies sexuality, we should all get the chance to learn how to become artists of our own sexual energy. To meet myself calmly and observe what my own body is, what it does, what it wants, how it expresses itself. That was really joyful and such a relief – at last!! I also deeply learned something brilliant about how love works.

I have been – and am still on the most amazing journey that you could ever find. I have rediscovered myself. and in fact, found a me that I did not know existed…

…People often comment that I have a glow about me. This comes from within. I am happy. I am confident. I enjoy life. I feel young, vibrant – life just zings with possibilities – and I have a constant smile. Alexey has very gently awoken my true feminine self. He has shown me how to love myself…and how to be a totally sexual woman.

I had found the Tantric Therapy website, as I wanted to be touched in an intimate, yet nourishing way, free of guilt, shame or regret and with no risks to my personal safety or sexual health. My body image was poor, my self esteem low and I had been involuntarily celibate for a long time, which caused me to overeat and thus the situation was self-perpetuating. Sexually, I was treating my body compulsively rather than with care, and it was becoming numb, joyless and unresponsive…

…Tantra for me is loving unconditionally and since I have been coming to Alexey I feel more love for myself and for others, which I’m afraid I have not found in a workshop scenario. I get something different out of every session and it has helped me in my daily life in many ways. Sexually, joyless days have gone and I am becoming the sexually responsive woman I would like to be. I always knew she was in there, but didn’t have any opportunities to find her.

Before I started going to his sessions, I had more of an interest in sex and little actual experience. For that reason, I had waited so long for a sexual experience. But when my long-awaited chance came, I was blocked and unable to have sex comfortably…

…In the end, all I experienced in the sessions meant much more than words. At present, I feel I have a healthy perspective of sexuality and metaphorically speaking, it is nice to have sexual energy as important as the nutrients from the daily meals. I feel I found myself as a woman and I am happy. Also, I naturally stop creating a state of unhealthy wanting toward others. It is because finally I am able to turn love to myself.

I have been poked and prodded by many medical professionals all with the same advice, “relax, let go, lose your inhibitions”. This was near enough impossible for me to do and sex with my partner left us both totally unsatisfied and me in tears almost every time…

…I realised that my difficulties in sex in the past were because I believed the wrong things about how it should be – and that is easy to do because those lies are all around. I now think about sex very differently, I have changed my view on what is “normal” and I have it in a different way. I can finally let go and lose myself in the moment, and enjoy sex without any anxiety or pain. It is definitely more enjoyable that its ever been. Tantra has changed my view on myself physically and emotionally. This school of thought is now a part of every facet of my life.

After the breakup of a long marriage, i had no confidence, no self esteem and believed no one would ever want to be with me or want me physically. I knew i needed help but had no idea who could help until i came across tantric therapy. All i knew was it had to be something focused on my lack of self worth as a woman…

…For me what Alexey teaches is about sex with love, appreciating the magic between a man and a woman,
I am so happy to have made that first call, the call that started the process which has helped start loving my life again.