What is a Yoni Massage
A Yoni massage can be a very important part of a sensual Tantric
Massage - if the client chooses to include it.
It is an internal massage that offers you a completely new experiences
of how your Yoni can feel. In this most important places for a woman's
sexual connection, her experience can range from painful or numb
to truly ecstatic and fulfilling. But it all comes down to how well
you understand your Yoni and how you connect with it.
The Yoni massage offers an opportunity to explore how your Yoni
should be best treated physically, and guide you through how you
can connect with it emotionally and mentally to empower it to its
The sexual energy in your Yoni depends much more on your emotional
and mental connection with it, than on the physical stimulation.
This is something many women never discover and the Yoni massage
lets you learn this for your whole life.
The Yoni massage can also give poweful healing to the difficulties
you experience in your Yoni, such as vaginal pains, lack of sensation,
A Yoni massage can heal a lot of the discomfort and anxieties
women experience in sex, and it can teach a woman to connect with
her vagina in a more positive way to receive more pleasure and less
trauma. This experience can lead a woman to a new confidence in
her relationship with her partner.
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I do it in my Tantric Massage
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successes with this technique
Why would you need a Yoni Massage?
Women's relationship with their vaginas is often
difficult and traumatic.
For a woman it is a very sacred place, an internal palace of love
and tendreness. It is tender and fragile.
A penetration is an incursion into
a woman's body and has to be done with utmost care. Unfortunately,
men can't relate to that and even a loving man is often rough and
violent with that tender part of a woman's bodyi.
It constantly has to brace itself,
suffer through rough treatment and all the love the woman puts into
it gets disillusioned.
Women themselves often don't understand how
to prepare her Yoni for sex and how to empower it. It is
thrown into action unawakened, a lot expected of it.
Over time this treatment makes a
woman tense, afraid, or just less responsive inside. It also gets
a lot of negative emotions, stigma, and conditioning. Some women
also suffer traumatic abuse.
Almost all women experience some restrictions
in their vaginal experience - they are less sensitive, less
orgasmic, tenser than they could be.
For some it is worse - pains in intercourse,
total insensitivity, lack of vaginal orgasmicity, extreme anxiety.
For many women this has a hugely debilitating effect on their confidence
as a woman, and on their relationships with their partners.
Most of this is not physical, as I have
seen in my practice.
It is psychological and emotional.
The Yoni has too much negativity in its tissues, like an abused
beaten puppy scared of a man's every move. A woman may feel comfortable
in her head but the body remembers and doesn't trust the head.
This gentle place has to learn to
feel safe, to feel clean of negative emotion, to flow with the woman's
deisre, to be a place of love, to trust a man. It has to become
your beacon of love.
Unfortunately, most men will only
make the matters worse and only certain professionals, like a Tantric
massage therapist, can show you the way to reconnect with this special
part of yourselfi.
Misconceptions about Yoni Massage
This is an internal vaginal massage that is usually presented as
healing and empowering. However, it is often misunderstood both
by people who look for it and by people who do it.
A vaginal massage doesn't need a whole body
massage - FALSE
Some women look for a vaginal massage alone, perhaps mistaking it
for a Tantric massage, and some therapists will offer it as a stand-alone.
This will not bring any healing - you will be cold and disconnected
there. To heal, it has to draw an all your being for its power,
so a holistic sensual Tantric massage has to preceed it. Having
the internal technique on its own will be little more than a handjob
on basic arousal reflexes at best, or even an unpleasant experience
A Yoni massage is intrusive and uncomfortable
Some women are terrified by the idea of an internal technique included
in a sensual massage. They remember the past negative feelings and
equate this experience to the same kind of treatment. Of course,
Tantric massage techniques are something totally different - it's
the kind of therapeutic respect and love you haven't felt inside
before. If it comes from someone who knows what they are doing,
that is. Unfortunately, there are lots of reports of "therapists"
shoving whatever and however into a woman's tender body.
A Yoni massage is a glorified handjob for singles
Some women think this term is another word for stimulating the women's
genitals into excitement and orgasm, just like in normal sex. Some
"therapists" see it as exactly that, and a woman wonders
if she wants to pay someone for a handjob. A genuine experience
is not this - it is a therapeutic and empowering building of sensual
connection with your genitals that you will never experience in
"Special" rubbing of vaginal walls
releases tension and heals - FALSE
Many sources suggest that by just physically rubbing the inside
in a particular way, just like you would give a deep massage to
your back, tensions are released and healing happens. It is not
true - there is nothing to gain by being rubbed in a particular
direction or on a particular spot. The healing that needs to happen
will only happen if in addition to physical stimulation there is
masteful guidance through psychological and emotional connection
with your vagina.
Ritualism in Yoni Massage empowers a woman -
Most Tantric massage therapists shroud this experience in ritualism
- calling on you to connect with the Goddess within or asking Shakti's
permission to enter. While it may have some symbolic value, ritualism
doesn't become emotional reality, it doesn't prepare you for real
How I do Yoni Massage in my Tantric Massage
I engage your whole being to help your Yoni
I never offer this experience as a stand-alone. We get to it only
in the last third of the bodywork. Before that, I engage your whole
body and your heart, I lead you into a trance-like state of full-body
sexual awakening. So you get time to relax and to trust, and your
Yoni has all this loving energy to draw on when we start, to heal
Physical sensation of a very different, enlightened
Physical stimulation is a part of it and it helps you explore sensitivity,
pleasure and erogenous areas insidei. But this stimulation is very
loving, very gentle - it is to increase your sensitivity rather
than dumb it. It is nothing to do with the usual rubbing and pushing.
Emotional and psychological connection is more
important than physical stimulation - it is the main part of the
The main positive effect comes from emotional and psychological
connection to your vaginai. I spend a long time preparing you for
this, creating the right headspace and heartspace in you. I approach
very gradually. When we start the internal massage I keep guiding
you into connecting with it, so that it is an elightened and loving
experience for you.
A Yoni massage you can learn from, for your
This lets you heal, but also - this lets you learn. Every woman
who has chosen to have this experience from me discovered a lot
about how to treat her own body. When she walks out she hasn't just
received healing, she was also taken step by step through how to
engage with that tenderness inside in a positive way. Now she can
do it in sex - healing herself further and not exposing herself
to more trauma.
No silly rituals
I don't waste time on ritualism. Your Yoni is what it is - it is
a sexual palace that lives to exchange love and pleasure. This is
why my work is succesful with all women, regardless of their spiritual
Your Yoni gives to your whole being
This experience is not restricted to just one place. In my massage
the energies of Yoni flow into your whole body. You discover how
that energy can feed you and nourish you, how it is a luminous part
that feeds your whole being with goodness, so that you feel whole
and a sexual experience becomes what it should be - not giving therapy
to one isolated part of your body, but opening everything to nourish
I understand that women feel uneasy about this technique. You
don't need to include it on your first session - perhaps
you prefer first to get to know me and trust me. We can do a Tantric
Massage without it first.
For some clients this can be a process over
several sessions. In one session we connect with it a little,
in another session more, until you feel that your Yoni can awaken
to its full capacity of pleasure and love.
You don't even need to decide before you come
or even before we start the massage. Maybe in our conversation
in the studio you understand it more and you become more comfortable.
Maybe you are still unsure. Many clients opt for leaving it to me
- if I feel during the massage that you would be open to this, I
go ahead. If I don't I don't. And if I have miscalculated you can
simply take my hand off. And if later you feel more ready you can
put my hand back on.
My successes with Yoni Massages
My approach has been very helpful for many women.
Improved sex life for every woman
Even women who didn't have any particular problems inside told me
that they now experience more in penetration and it has helped them
to expand their sex life.
Less pains, more sensitivty, more orgasmicity
Clients have been able to reduce or get rid of vaginal pains. They
have been able to increase their sensitivity, discover more orgasmicity
and bring sensitive spots to life.
Overturn the doctor's diagnosis
Many times a woman thought there was something wrong with her physically.
She has even gone to doctors. In the end it turned out that by taking
the right informed approach to the psychological and emotional connection
to her body, plus experiencing the right touch in the Yoni massage,
problems went away.
Recovery from sexual abuse and trauma
I have had clients with very traumatic past of sexual abuse recover
from physical and psychological trauma in their genitals, becoming
sexually healthy again
New life in your body
Many clients told me that there is a sensation that your Yoni opens
into your body and releases its energy. They noticed plesant pulsations
into their body next day, as if things started flowing.
Regained confidence and relationships
This healing has been very important for these women. They regained
their confidence as healthy and sexual women, able to enjoy sex
to the full and give their man love in penetrationi. It has helped
clients to find new relationships or mend existing ones.