Yoni Massage

What is a Yoni Massage

A Yoni massage can be a very important part of a sensual Tantric Massage - if the client chooses to include it.

It is an internal massage that offers you a completely new experiences of how your Yoni can feel. In this most important places for a woman's sexual connection, her experience can range from painful or numb to truly ecstatic and fulfilling. But it all comes down to how well you understand your Yoni and how you connect with it.

The Yoni massage offers an opportunity to explore how your Yoni should be best treated physically, and guide you through how you can connect with it emotionally and mentally to empower it to its highest state.

The sexual energy in your Yoni depends much more on your emotional and mental connection with it, than on the physical stimulation. This is something many women never discover and the Yoni massage lets you learn this for your whole life.

The Yoni massage can also give poweful healing to the difficulties you experience in your Yoni, such as vaginal pains, lack of sensation, disconnection, etc.

A Yoni massage can heal a lot of the discomfort and anxieties women experience in sex, and it can teach a woman to connect with her vagina in a more positive way to receive more pleasure and less trauma. This experience can lead a woman to a new confidence in her relationship with her partner.

On this page:

Why would you need it?
Misconceptions about it
How I do it in my Tantric Massage
Caring for your comfort
My successes with this technique

Why would you need a Yoni Massage?

Women's relationship with their vaginas is often difficult and traumatic.
For a woman it is a very sacred place, an internal palace of love and tendreness. It is tender and fragile.
      A penetration is an incursion into a woman's body and has to be done with utmost care. Unfortunately, men can't relate to that and even a loving man is often rough and violent with that tender part of a woman's bodyi.
      It constantly has to brace itself, suffer through rough treatment and all the love the woman puts into it gets disillusioned.

Women themselves often don't understand how to prepare her Yoni for sex and how to empower it. It is thrown into action unawakened, a lot expected of it.

      Over time this treatment makes a woman tense, afraid, or just less responsive inside. It also gets a lot of negative emotions, stigma, and conditioning. Some women also suffer traumatic abuse.

Almost all women experience some restrictions in their vaginal experience - they are less sensitive, less orgasmic, tenser than they could be.
      For some it is worse - pains in intercourse, total insensitivity, lack of vaginal orgasmicity, extreme anxiety. For many women this has a hugely debilitating effect on their confidence as a woman, and on their relationships with their partners.

Most of this is not physical, as I have seen in my practice.
      It is psychological and emotional.
The Yoni has too much negativity in its tissues, like an abused beaten puppy scared of a man's every move. A woman may feel comfortable in her head but the body remembers and doesn't trust the head.
      This gentle place has to learn to feel safe, to feel clean of negative emotion, to flow with the woman's deisre, to be a place of love, to trust a man. It has to become your beacon of love.
      Unfortunately, most men will only make the matters worse and only certain professionals, like a Tantric massage therapist, can show you the way to reconnect with this special part of yourselfi.

Misconceptions about Yoni Massage

This is an internal vaginal massage that is usually presented as healing and empowering. However, it is often misunderstood both by people who look for it and by people who do it.

A vaginal massage doesn't need a whole body massage - FALSE
Some women look for a vaginal massage alone, perhaps mistaking it for a Tantric massage, and some therapists will offer it as a stand-alone. This will not bring any healing - you will be cold and disconnected there. To heal, it has to draw an all your being for its power, so a holistic sensual Tantric massage has to preceed it. Having the internal technique on its own will be little more than a handjob on basic arousal reflexes at best, or even an unpleasant experience at worst.

A Yoni massage is intrusive and uncomfortable - FALSE
Some women are terrified by the idea of an internal technique included in a sensual massage. They remember the past negative feelings and equate this experience to the same kind of treatment. Of course, Tantric massage techniques are something totally different - it's the kind of therapeutic respect and love you haven't felt inside before. If it comes from someone who knows what they are doing, that is. Unfortunately, there are lots of reports of "therapists" shoving whatever and however into a woman's tender body.

A Yoni massage is a glorified handjob for singles - FALSE
Some women think this term is another word for stimulating the women's genitals into excitement and orgasm, just like in normal sex. Some "therapists" see it as exactly that, and a woman wonders if she wants to pay someone for a handjob. A genuine experience is not this - it is a therapeutic and empowering building of sensual connection with your genitals that you will never experience in normal sex.

"Special" rubbing of vaginal walls releases tension and heals - FALSE
Many sources suggest that by just physically rubbing the inside in a particular way, just like you would give a deep massage to your back, tensions are released and healing happens. It is not true - there is nothing to gain by being rubbed in a particular direction or on a particular spot. The healing that needs to happen will only happen if in addition to physical stimulation there is masteful guidance through psychological and emotional connection with your vagina.

Ritualism in Yoni Massage empowers a woman - FALSE
Most Tantric massage therapists shroud this experience in ritualism - calling on you to connect with the Goddess within or asking Shakti's permission to enter. While it may have some symbolic value, ritualism doesn't become emotional reality, it doesn't prepare you for real sex life.

How I do Yoni Massage in my Tantric Massage

I engage your whole being to help your Yoni
I never offer this experience as a stand-alone. We get to it only in the last third of the bodywork. Before that, I engage your whole body and your heart, I lead you into a trance-like state of full-body sexual awakening. So you get time to relax and to trust, and your Yoni has all this loving energy to draw on when we start, to heal itself.

Physical sensation of a very different, enlightened kind
Physical stimulation is a part of it and it helps you explore sensitivity, pleasure and erogenous areas insidei. But this stimulation is very loving, very gentle - it is to increase your sensitivity rather than dumb it. It is nothing to do with the usual rubbing and pushing.

Emotional and psychological connection is more important than physical stimulation - it is the main part of the Yoni massage.
The main positive effect comes from emotional and psychological connection to your vaginai. I spend a long time preparing you for this, creating the right headspace and heartspace in you. I approach very gradually. When we start the internal massage I keep guiding you into connecting with it, so that it is an elightened and loving experience for you.

A Yoni massage you can learn from, for your sex life
This lets you heal, but also - this lets you learn. Every woman who has chosen to have this experience from me discovered a lot about how to treat her own body. When she walks out she hasn't just received healing, she was also taken step by step through how to engage with that tenderness inside in a positive way. Now she can do it in sex - healing herself further and not exposing herself to more trauma.

No silly rituals
I don't waste time on ritualism. Your Yoni is what it is - it is a sexual palace that lives to exchange love and pleasure. This is why my work is succesful with all women, regardless of their spiritual beliefs.

Your Yoni gives to your whole being
This experience is not restricted to just one place. In my massage the energies of Yoni flow into your whole body. You discover how that energy can feed you and nourish you, how it is a luminous part that feeds your whole being with goodness, so that you feel whole and a sexual experience becomes what it should be - not giving therapy to one isolated part of your body, but opening everything to nourish each other.

Your Comfort

I understand that women feel uneasy about this technique. You don't need to include it on your first session - perhaps you prefer first to get to know me and trust me. We can do a Tantric Massage without it first.

For some clients this can be a process over several sessions. In one session we connect with it a little, in another session more, until you feel that your Yoni can awaken to its full capacity of pleasure and love.

You don't even need to decide before you come or even before we start the massage. Maybe in our conversation in the studio you understand it more and you become more comfortable. Maybe you are still unsure. Many clients opt for leaving it to me - if I feel during the massage that you would be open to this, I go ahead. If I don't I don't. And if I have miscalculated you can simply take my hand off. And if later you feel more ready you can put my hand back on.

My successes with Yoni Massages

My approach has been very helpful for many women.

Improved sex life for every woman
Even women who didn't have any particular problems inside told me that they now experience more in penetration and it has helped them to expand their sex life.

Less pains, more sensitivty, more orgasmicity
Clients have been able to reduce or get rid of vaginal pains. They have been able to increase their sensitivity, discover more orgasmicity and bring sensitive spots to life.

Overturn the doctor's diagnosis
Many times a woman thought there was something wrong with her physically. She has even gone to doctors. In the end it turned out that by taking the right informed approach to the psychological and emotional connection to her body, plus experiencing the right touch in the Yoni massage, problems went away.

Recovery from sexual abuse and trauma
I have had clients with very traumatic past of sexual abuse recover from physical and psychological trauma in their genitals, becoming sexually healthy again

New life in your body
Many clients told me that there is a sensation that your Yoni opens into your body and releases its energy. They noticed plesant pulsations into their body next day, as if things started flowing.

Regained confidence and relationships
This healing has been very important for these women. They regained their confidence as healthy and sexual women, able to enjoy sex to the full and give their man love in penetrationi. It has helped clients to find new relationships or mend existing ones.