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Adults are always surprised when I say I work in sex education for adults. They say "do adults need to learn??"

Let's see. What would make an adult feel they don't need to learn? Having genitalia and knowing where to put them? Feeling the urge to have sex and following on that?

There is a perception that by the virtue of being born male or female we already know what to do in sex. And that if you are looking for extra guidance there is something deficient about you, you are below some basic skills and it is embarassing.

If the idea is just to shake off some sexual tension or make babies, then sticking it in and getting an orgasm (or not even that for a woman) will suffice.

But you are not born with the knowledge of how to make sex good, how to make it last through your relationship, how to get maximum pleasure and hapiness of it, how to know what your sexual being needs for this, and what your partner needs for this, how to transform it into something truly joyful and beneficial for yourself.

Just having genitals is not enough. Imagine you need to run 25 metres. Do you know how to do it? Sure, and you will make it with no problem. Now imagine you want to be a professional runner, or you want to run a marathon for charity, or you want to get fit by running. Do you know how to do it? You have legs don't you? So what's there to learn?

Obviously, plenty. How to build up your training programme, how to feed your body correctly to sustain it, how to breathe well, how to move your legs correctly to sustain the pace and avoid injury, how long the rest intervals should be, how to stretch before and after to keep yourself well, how to choose the right trainers, etc. Lots and lots of things. Do you know them just by the virtue of having legs? If you don't educate yourself you will either get an injury, work out inefficiently which will make you suffer and you may never make it. All of this would stem simply from your ignorance. You will most likely get a trainer because you recognise the need for expert advice.

It is the same in sex but we treat it with utmost disdain. Sex is very complicated and multi-dimensional, it happens on all levels - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. There are many nuances and huge differences between men and women that need to be bridged. The disappointments that people have in it are a testament to that. There is simply no reason you should feel that you have inherited all this knowledge from birth. Experts are needed, like in everything else. They are people who dedicate their lives to gathering this knowledge to transmit it to you. You do your job, they do theirs. Just like they are not experts in your area, you are not an expert in theirs.

You should accept this fact and not be ashamed of looking for guidance. There is no need to take it personally, as if this makes you inferior to others. Learning more is not an admission of the fact that you are a bad lover - just a recognition that things can be learned and they can become better for anyone. It is not like everyone else around you is a great lover and you are worse than them. Most people have plenty to learn. At least you are one of those who is doing something about it rather than avoiding the fact.

There is also another side to it - educating yourself from the right sources is not enough. Then you have to educate your body. Your body has its own memory, its own habits. Just reading something doesn't mean you can immediately feel those sensations or have your body do everything right. Your body carries lots of conditioning and entrenched patterns. For example, you may want to relax more into enjoying pleasure but your body is used to chasing an orgasm as soon as possible. When you learn to dance just listening to someone is not enough, you then have to train your body consciously to do the moves until it becomes second nature to it. Again, you need an expert to take you through the steps. There are particular practical ways to educate your body and professional guidance can help you.

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Tantric wisdom teaches us about this exactly - conscious exploration of ourselves to expand our sexual potential, instead of taking what there is from birth as the limit. A professional can take you through the steps and then you can keep exploring yourself. The value of Tantric massage is that it also lets you see those ideas happen in your body, it educates your body, not just the mind, to help you on this journey.

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