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It is easy to believe that there is plenty of sex information we automatically find in our lives, so we often feel well informed. But have you ever considered that the real question is not what you know but...

How do you know what you know about sex? Where did it come from? Are you sure it is true?

Let's look at all the ways we get our sexual education, in the order of apperance:

Parents

Most people only get the "how the babies are made" chat from their parents and child upbringing at the moment rarely involves helping teenagers to prepare themselves for a good love life. Even if you are a lucky enough to have had those conversations with your parents, how do you know you have not just inherited someone else's misconceptions? Especially if your parents are religious.

Gossip

From our teens on we get most of our knowledge of sex from our friends and peers. In school, it is usually someone particularly exhuberant - not necessarily well informed. Later it is someone who is more vocal - again, not necessarily well informed. Have you ever noticed that everyone around seems to be having a great sex life, and that when sex conversation take place they tend to be discussing various curiosities rather than helpful advice? People are often ingenuine about their own experiences because they feel insecure. Only sometimes are you lucky to have a very open and productive conversation with a close friend, most of the times people tend to hide the imperfections in their sex life, which only makes the listener feel deficient and insecure. Take care of your self-esteem and don't believe everything you hear. Last but not least, it all comes down to the fact that all the people around you learn from the same sources as you, so if those sources are deficient, hearing it from them doesn't give any more credibility to it.

Personal Experience

Trial and error, as well as good insightful experiences, are a major source of learning for us. It is easy to spot what is not good for you, although even there we often doubt our conclusions surrounded by information that goes contrary to that. It is harder to find what is good for us. Are you sure that you have ever been given the right space, the right conditions to really discover yourself? The vast majority of people have sex on a very limited level. Most men don't give their women a chance to really feel through what sex can be, and women then decide that this is their sexual reality. You may have developed ways to cope with this which now don't let you experience more, such as obsessive clitoral stimulation. Personal experience is only valid to learn from if it created all the right experiences for you, but in many cases this is not the case and there is a lot more to learn that can challenge your beliefs if you got the right experience.

Science and Media

Science researches sex and media spreads those findings. Women then read them in magazines and on the internet. These findings are taken as general proven truths. As I have written in this article (link to be added shortly) science comes up with a lot of misconceptions. The research is normally done on a male model of sexuality, normally by men, who take a very clinical attitude in order to get funds and to come accross as professional. Sex was a difficult subject to approach in religion, now it is in science too. The research is done on a purely phyiscal level of stimulating the nerves and doesn't touch on essential aspects of female sexuality, the mental and emotional. It is conducted in clinical conditions where female sexuality gets absoultely dead. There has also been a lot of bias observed in the methodology. All in all, science is at the moment totally inequipped to give an accurate picture of female sexuality and how it can be improved. A lot of it remains hidden within this approach.

These flawed findings are then fed into the media. Journalists commercialise on the fact that sex sells and transmit any sensationalist idea with disregard for how helpful it is to women. Often, women are presented with a very distorted verson of the truth but since it is scientifically acquired, they bend to it, feeling deficient and inferior to all those other supposedly ecstatically happy women out there.

Science itself admits that it's approaches are not presriptive, they are descriptive. In other words, its job is not to advise on how to have a better sex life, but to describe what is out there (and in many cases with faulty approach). What do you care how many pathological deviations are out there and what are the percentages? The important question is what are the causes and what you can do about them.

Porn

Women may watch less porn than men but they are indirectly very affected by it, because men get most of their sexual knowledge from porn and they are the ones who usually lead the sex act. Women are then pressured to conform to the porn stereotypes. Even when there is intitial rebellion, women often end up believing that this is how sex should be and they should make more of an effort to learn those ways.

Porn is made by men, for men. It feeds on the most primitive instincts and it doesnt represent reality at all. It is made with the purpose of making money, giving men their darkest fantasies. There is no place for love in porn, it glorifies the violent and egotistical sexual behavior. Since it is made for men, it also represents women in a completely unrealistic way. Women in porn are not at all how most women are. Yet men believe that this is the case, get used to this idea and then thrust it on women.

Medicine

Some medical outlets provide sex advice and people are even recommended to see their GPs for sexual problems. Even less than narrow-field science, what exactly is someone from a medical school will know about sex? The views held in medicine find their way into mainstream media too and contribute to your belief system. Medicine looks at sex as a biological act that needs particular physical or hormonal stimulation, in many cases drugs too. Medicine is not there to give you sex advice, it is there to find out if you need a pill.

In Conclusion...

So how much of what you know is true? And how much truth you haven't had access to in your life?

Even most of the sex experts - manuals and therapists - draw on these same sources of knowledge to give their advice.

The reason Tantric knowledge has a much more accurate view of sexuality is because for millenia it has been explored as an experience by very conscious and aware individuals who weeded out misconceptions and confusion, and it was always approached holistically from the entire perspective of the human being in the search for truth within a philosophy. They may well be a lot more to discover, but it is certainly a much more accurate approach than those that exist in our culture now.

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