You can find different interpretations and offers of Yoni massages. For something so delicate and sensitive of course it is important for you to choose a genuine and effective one. Here are some opinions I don’t subscribe to:
Yoni massage as adult service
Not everyone who says ‘Yoni massage’ is a genuine professional. Often, this term can now be used to offer an adult massage with vaginal stimulation, as a sex service, for some sort of sexy experience.
Often, an offer like that may even talk of healing or spirituality to ‘be on the level’ to pose as a Yoni massage, but it should usually be obvious to you whether the person is a teacher / therapist or a sex worker. A genuine Yoni massage is not just a different word for general vaginal stimulation. It is a very specific experience, done by an expert, that takes you to a different level of healing or growth in sexuality.
Yoni as medical massage of the vaginal muscles to improve their health
Sometimes you can see Yoni massages explained as rubbing the vagina in the same way you would do the muscles of the back. The theory is that buy improving blood flow, lymph flow, elasticity, etc, you will improve the woman’s sexual experience. Supposedly emotional trauma is physically stored in the vaginal walls and makes them hardened or less sensitive.
Mechanical rubbing of the vagina is not going to bring a lot of result and this is not a gateway to female sexuality and sexual vitality. If anything, the vagina is a very sensual place that is likely to shut down to mechanical treatment.
Such perspective also makes you into a passive patient who may feel a short-terms increase in purely physical sensation due to more blood flow, but no real shift in your sense of lovemaking, relationship and self as a vibrant woman.
In our world it is hard to be honest that your healing will come from positive experiences of enjoyment, so many therapists feel almost pushed to describe the therapy in anatomical / medical terms. But if this is done in practice, you will of course not get far being treated like that.
Any trauma, shut down and lack of feeling in the vagina is not a physical build up. ‘Block’ is a metaphor. Rubbing physical tissues won’t resolve anything. It is about learning a new response, new presence, new emotional connection, new sensitivity inside your vagina. It’s about learning how the vagina needs to be touched, treated, interacted with. It’s about you letting go, opening and connecting – and discovering a true sexual experience in your Yoni.
I have extensive experience and I’ve seen no evidence that trauma is deposited as a physical deposit in tissues and needs ‘breaking down’. I’ve worked with lots of women with extensive trauma who had a perfectly fine and sensitive vaginal experience during sex. I’ve also worked with a lot of women with no trauma who struggled to feel their vagina.
Yoni massage as a Goddess ritual
Sometimes Yoni massage is basically vaginal stimulation but performed by a very devoted practitioner as a sacred ritual. It may have a psychological feel-good effect of being honoured and respected, but it is also important to ensure that the touch itself is not just standard stimulation but is able to create a truly different experience of your sexual energy, on the Tantric level.
If you are introduced to a genuine Tantric technique that gives you a genuine Tantric experience that develops you as a woman, then there is also no need in religious ritual, as this is not relevant to your real relationships.
To sum up, when choosing a Yoni massage you need to look for certain pointers:
Will it be something beyond just being stimulated?
A common problem is that you are promised a lot but the Yoni massage is just the typical stimulation you have received all your life. You don’t need to pay for that. You need to ensure when selecting a therapist that they seem to know something extra to the conventional sexual technique – and so they can give you a new experience that helps to heal or to learn.
Is the Yoni massage performed by a sexuality expert or a masseur?
A genuine Yoni massage can only be performed by an expert in female sexuality. The vagina is a very interconnected piece in the woman’s sexuality and it takes full knowledge of female sexuality to approach it correctly. If someone doesn’t have extensive experience in working with a full range of sexual responses, situations, and problems in women then they can’t approach a Yoni massage with an unknown client safely and correctly.