This is part 2 of the post on why a the professional Tantric bodywork I offer to women in London can be a powerful way to deal with low sexual confidence when a woman feels a lack of sexual confidence.
The problem is that women always ask themselves “what do men want?” and the solution seems to be in finding that and learning that if they wanted to increase their sexual confidence.
However, as the proverbial “what if other people jump off a cliff” example goes, what if his desire is something alien or not particularly pleasant for you? Will you have to learn how to do that well to please him?
The question is not so much what men want – unfortunately men have been raised on distorted images of porn and they now want all kinds of unreasonable things – as what could be really good for them as human beings, and can you bring that into your relationship.
Curiously, in this age of sexual equality when women are meant to enjoy sex as equal partners, this worry and insecurity about being a skilled enough partner to be confident in sex leads them into seeking ways of becoming more of a toy, more of a tool, finding what entertains the man. Instead, women looking to build their sexual confidence should connect with their inner wisdom to bring a man the kind of loving and nourishing, relaxed and stressless sex life that men are so disconnected from
Women need to redefine where their sexual confidence comes from. Being good at pleasing a man by being a toy for him can only last till the next time he will be bored.
A woman needs to have her vision of a sex life that has pleasure and creativity in it but is also healthy, loving and meaningful. She needs to find that vision in herself first. She needs to feel that this sexual state exists, she needs to feel that within her. She needs to enjoy being in that place, enjoy creating it. Then she will naturally follow her senses to create a great experience for herself – and her man.
The true soulful connection of making your partner happy and taking care of him, can only come from a woman enjoying the beauty of experience and being led by that happiness. From learning to feel your own sexual energy, yourself as a sensual woman . Otherwise the woman is forever chasing approval and her touch is a dead, stressed, feeble and mechanical stimulation
Of course, it is important to know the basics of how male sexual energy works, how to treat your partner’s body. But at the same time women need to have the wisdom to lead a man’s energy somewhere meaningful and healthy, where they can both find a fulfilling connection. Not to simply satisfy the latest fashion or a whim. Women can not compromise what is important for them just to keep men happy. Unfortunately, women often never understand what is important for them, what really needs to happen in sex to keep a woman truly happy, confused they buy into the usual fun sex and carry on having superficial pleasure, unfulfilled and constantly stressed out.
A professional session of Yoni massage therapy offers that physical and direct experience. A great deal of sexual confidence can be built from just feeling how you can be and understanding how you got there.
Most people who come to me find that one of the biggest values of Tantric massage is that it changes your perception of what you must achieve in sexual experience. It makes clear the lies you have bought into and how easier and within reach the truth and sexual happiness can be.