Is Vibrator Bad / Harmful For You?

Many of my Tantric massage and Yoni massage clients in London ask me this question.

In sex therapy there is now a recently introduced sexual disorder – Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder, otherwise known as SADD. SADD is normally applied to men who are used to stimulating themselves through porn so much that when it comes to real-life sex they are unable to respond to it and enjoy it.

It is true that women perhaps don’t have as much interest in porn as men, however when a woman uses a vibrator too much, the use of vibrator does cause harm and damage and this can create a similar disorder as SADD

When people come to me I always recommend them to wean themselves off vibrators and many of my clients happily stop the harmful use of vibrators after seeing me.

Sex between two people is lovemaking, and self-pleasuring is lovemaking too. It can be making love to yourself, or it can be making love to someone you are imagining. If you don’t have this perspective you are depriving yourself of a beautiful thing.

When a robotic appliance is drilling the tenderness of your sex organs it is a far cry from lovemaking. The simple fact is that you are having sex with a robot. It is not even a life-size, man-like robot as a substitute, it is a mechanical stick.

The reason for this harmful use of vibrators is, of course, immediate gratification. But vibrators are harmful and damaging because you are creating a conditioning in your body, creating patterns of arousal and stimulation which can make real-life sex difficult for you to feel. In real sex immediate gratification doesn’t exist – and there is no reason why it should exist either. The beauty of sex is not to get a hit and wonder off, the beauty is to share some good time with your partner, to feel loved and to feel love, to be attentive to each other’s bodies, to respect your love and your relationship by committing some time to it. However, the use of vibrator changes your sexual patterns towards coming alive simply to gobble down a hit of pleasure and fall back asleep. This perspective is completely egocentric. You may think that you are aware of it and you can change it back any time you want, but the reality is that you are creating a new body memory which is not that much under your control once it takes its hold. And that is why extensive use of vibrators can be quite bad for you.

If you want to reverse this lack of sensitivity then a you can book a re-sensitizing session of a sensual Tantric massage in London. In particular we will work with a re-sensitizing Yoni massage technique.

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