Body-Focused Sex Therapy For Women in London

Tantric Therapy provides an alternative body-centred sex therapy for women.

If you are a woman looking for a sex therapist in London in the form of counselling or talking psychotherapy then I am not the right person to help.

If you want to focus on improving your actual sexual experience, in real and practical terms, then the alternative is to do a treatment that is more experiential, body-centred, direct and practical. A form of sex therapy that gives direct sexual healing to the body. To work with your responses and your connection to a direct sexual experience. All in a safe, clearly framed space supported with expert guidance and advice.

Tantric Therapy is one of the few UK practices specialised and experienced in this alternative method of sex therapy for women to help you overcome your problems and difficulties.

Tantric massage for women is an incredibly powerful and effective sex therapy to give treatment and healing to sexual problems and difficulties in you sex life.

There are many offers of Tantric massage in London which may seem to you like adult services or some pleasure adventure – and they are.

However, my practice Tantric Therapy has always been true to the origins of Tantric massage and Yoni massage as a method for growth and sexual healing. It has always been focused on providing genuine solutions and healing for women’s problems in sex. My extensive 15-year experience in Tantric massage is mainly in focusing it as a sex therapy for women’s issues. Over this time my form of Tantric massage has been perfected as a powerful and effective genuine method of sex therapy.

Why This Is An Alternative Solution For Women For Sex Therapy

Occasionally sex problems come from trauma or psychological problems in the past or the present that you can’t deal with or process. Treatment with psychotherapy could be appropriate in those cases.

Your sex life can also be affected by a diagnosed medical condition, and then you will need medical treatment to address the problem.

However, only a minority of sex problems have these causes, and it is problematic when our approach is to assume everything is a trauma or an illness when it isn’t.

Most sex problems are a result of misuse: your way of having sex has a negative effect on your sex life, or you are simply not accessing your sexual energy in the right way with the right understanding, and you get a poor result.

If you educate yourself on a better practice of sex, and you stop using a harmful or ineffective approach – your problems will go away. This could well be a more effective sex therapy than looking for psychological trauma.

If you go to the gym without the correct programme and the right diet, do you need therapy when you hurt or don’t get results? Or do you need an instructor?

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Unfortunately all you learn about sex is superficial and gravely misinformed on how female sexuality really works. There is an assumption that in normal sex all women should feel great and if you don’t something is wrong with you.

In reality normal sex is not supposed to work well for women and it is only natural that so many women struggle in it. If you try to fix this by learning more of the normal approach to sex it can make matters even worse.

The vast majority of my female clients who came for sex therapy were convinced they had a lot to heal but actually they didn’t – they just needed to understand how sex really works for women.

Even problems that may appear psychological – such as anxiety about sex, distaste or struggling to connect with sex – often don’t mean you need counselling or to look for a cause in your childhood. You may have a better remedy and help in a technique – how to be present, how to be positive, how to connect – and then everything may work, you may need no more treatment.

I have also worked with many women for whom counselling and psychotherapy were essential in their problems, but there comes a point where the psychological stuff is processed yet they can’t move further. They’ve dealt with trauma but don’t know how to create a positive and healthy sex life now, as it doesn’t just snap back. The body remembers and instinctive reactions happen. They feel that the next step is to work directly with the body, responses, comfort and Tantric therapy works very well at that stage.

This is why my approach to sex therapy is not to see you as a patient to heal.
I don’t see you as broken.
I see you as someone who just needs to learn a better way.
I see you as a learner who improves with my help.

Some people need a more careful, gradual, supportive learning than others, if you are experiencing major problems. That’s all.

What Can We Treat With The Tantric Method For Sex Therapy?

 I have a lot of experience in successfully helping women with the following problems:

  • Feeling anxious in sex
  • Feeling tense in sex, unable to relax
  • Recovering from sexual trauma and sexual abuse
  • Mental brakes in sex (self-consciousness, pressure, insecurity, etc)
  • Insecurity if you have little sexual experience
  • Lack of confidence in sex, worry for your partner’s pleasure
  • Being too much in your head during sex
  • Focusing too much on pleasing your partner
  • Feeling uncomfortable with receiving in sex
  • Pain and discomfort during sex
  • Difficulty with getting aroused, or enjoying sex
  • Low sexual desire, low interest in sex
  • Negative body image issues in sex
  • Lack of feeling in the body, lack of sensitivity, numbness
  • Emotional blocks in sex
  • Unhealthy compulsive and addictive patterns in sex

If your problem is listed here, further down this page you can read more in detail about how Tantric massage can treat it specifically.

Everyone is different and the success of any treatment or therapy depends on your particular situation.
Please write to me or call me and inquire about a specific difficulty you experience.

I have a lot of experience with these conditions and I will be very happy to explain to you in detail how exactly Tantric massage can help for your particular situation.

While I have experience helping with these more common problems, I can also help with more unusual difficulties and try to find a solution for you.

How Tantric Sex Therapy Works

Tantric massage is such a powerful and effective sex therapy for women because it works in several important directions at the same time.

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Positive reinforcement through real direct positive experience

How you feel in sex can’t be resolved intellectually. Your body has memories and conditioning – both negative and positive. Talking as a treatment / remedy is often not enough, as your body then still reacts on its own – with anxiety, shut down, protective numbness, etc.

Many of your sex problems come from negative sexual experiences. Not necessarily traumatic but also unpleasant, superficial, feelings of failure, etc.

The power of Tantric massage as a method of sex therapy is to give you real positive experiences. It won’t be like before, you’re not on your own – we’ll create something new, something more positive with a special approach. Your body learns that sexual feelings are safe, positive, loving, nourishing, beautiful. Your body learns that this is very special and important energy in your life. Gradually this becomes a new reality, your body deeply internalises this new positive feeling of sexuality and it looks forward to it, relaxed and willing. It is basic conditioning through experience.

There is a very real direct communication between my hands and your body during our treatment / healing sessions. Your body receives true healing and loving energy, there is a profound direct effect that has nothing to do with your mind.

This is not a kind of risk you can take in your private life if sex is challenging – it could turn out to be another negative sexual experience with an average person out there or even with your partner. But a Tantric massage is the ideal place for you to start, in a safe and supportive space with expert guidance, acting as true healing and therapy.

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Learning good practices from real experience

As we create these experiences in our sex therapy sessions, you learn – through direct experience, through practice.

You learn how your body really works, how it needs to be touched, how it can feel and how that is achieved. You learn about the sequence, the different important areas. You learn how to connect well mentally and emotionally, and how to overcome difficult moments.

You can observe the effect of the different approaches in real experience.

You learn about yourself and you become equipped to recreate this healthy and vibrant sexuality on your own in your life.

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Natural, organic transformation in your body and psyche

When you take the experiential route to sex therapy, in this process there is organic change. The more of this positive experience you send into your body memory, the more your body opens, flourishes, trusts and feels more confident that this is good and this is beautiful.

There is an organic change that happens deep within your body. Soon you don’t need to focus so much or remember what you are doing – your body feels more sensitive, more alive, more happy and rich in general. Your body finds it easy to be engaged, to awaken, to react easily, to connect.

Whereas before you had to approach your body in a particular way, with certain presence, now your body simply feels a lot, in any kind of sex that you want to have in your life.

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A direct influx of healing and empowering energy into your life

A Tantric massage is a real experience of filling up with positive sexual energy.
Yes on one hand you are learning how to access that positive sexual energy in our healing sessions. On the other hand, once you do that during the session, it stays with you after the massage.

This is very much energy work. This nourishing, deep sexual energy stays with you and it often affects women in many positive ways, from self-love and peacefulness, to sensuality, relating and emotional wellbeing.

It all works in a positive cycle – this positive energy that you receive makes you feel better as a woman, and that in turn makes you even more relaxed and vibrant in a sexual moment with someone.

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A brighter, more meaningful vision of sex to help you

Tantric sexuality is also a new philosophy on sex that you will explore.
 It is a bright, healthy, positive vision of making love that goes beyond the superficial and shallow experience of normal sex.

We are not trying to get you to be ok with normal – we are trying to help you live it to the full, on the highest level.

Sex therapy by Tantric massage is about discovering a new level of sexuality. That level will make more sense to you, you will cherish and honour more this beautiful energy in your life.

This will help you to create a more positive relationship with your sexuality.

Tantric Massage is challenging but that is an important part of your journey

Even though you may understand that a Tantric massage can be a very effective sex therapy for you as a woman, you may of course still find it challenging.

However, the challenges of doing sex therapy this way are also the virtues. It’s not just about the body – it’s about personal growth as a woman. Facing your fears, opening up, letting go, regaining your confidence in practice.

Going out of your comfort zone like this you gain a tremendous amount of freedom and confidence. This discomfort about having a Tantric massage is not just a nuisance that troubles you which you would like to go away, it is an integral and important part of your journey.

DISCLAIMER

I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide treatment and healing through alternative sex therapy, and not conventional sex therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals.

Specific Problems And How Tantric Massage Treats Them

Tantric massage used as a sex therapy for women is extremely effective at treating most of the common sex problems that women have.

There is a specific approach and method to work with each problem.

I can also work with sex problems that are less common, if you have a very particular situation – from my experience I can put together methods that I used on more common sex problem, to address your specifics.

Feeling disconnected from your body in sex

If you struggle to feel connected to your body during sex, the treatment through this bodywork is a particularly effective remedy for the disconnect because you work directly with the feelings in your body and establish that connection in practice. READ

Being too much in your head during sex

If you find it difficult to get out of your head during sex, a Tantric massage is an excellent remedy to treat this issue. It teaches you to be more present in your body as a practical skill. READ

Can’t relax in sex / can’t let go

If you are someone who finds it difficult to relax and let go in sex, the sex therapy of Tantric massage is a very effective treatment, as it gives you the practical skills for relaxation of the mind and body. READ

Focusing excessively on your partner’s pleasure in sex / getting into the mode of performance.

If you habitually perform in sex and focus too much on your partner’s pleasure, Tantric therapy is exceptionally effective specifically to remedy this pattern in women – by teaching you to focus on your own feelings. READ

Feeling uncomfortable with receiving in sex

If you find that you are a giver but you can’t relax and receive in sex, a Tantric massage massage is a very effective way to address this – you will learn to focus on your own feelings in comfort and full connection. READ

Low sexual desire / low sex drive / low interest in sex

Tantric massage is a very effective sex therapy to increase sex drive and interest in sex for women. You awaken your body with real sexual energy, and you learn how to engage with your body. READ

You don’t enjoy sex / don’t want to have sex

If you are a woman who generally doesn’t enjoy sex and wants to learn how to enjoy it, Tantric therapy is a direct and practical sex way forward to help you explore a better feeling. READ

Problems with arousal

If you generally find it difficult to get aroused, in case of women the most effective sex therapy to really get to the core of the issue is to learn what your body really needs to come alive – and a Tantric massage will show it through real experience. READ

You have never had sex

If you are a woman who has never had sex you will have anxiety about sex – Tantric therapy will give you an experiential process to explore your body and reduce that anxiety. READ

Poor body image in sex / feeling self-conscious

If you feel too self-conscious of how your body looks and this disrupts your enjoyment of sex, Tantric massage is a perfect remedy / therapy to help you relax and love your body. READ

Heal / recover from sexual abuse

If you need help with impact of sexual abuse, sex therapy through the Tantric method of bodywork could be a positive, proactive and effective treatment to heal and recover from sexual abuse. It works directly with your body and your responses. READ

Healing sexual trauma

Tantric therapy is very effective for treating and healing all sorts of sexual trauma in women – it regenerates the body directly, clears it and erases negative memories. READ

Recovery / healing from sexual assault 

For very serious cases where you need treatment for sexual assault or rape in your past, a Tantric massage is a supportive and nurturing therapy to heal the direct traumatic response of your body. READ

Anxiety in sex / anxiety about sex

If you suffer from sexual anxiety – feeling anxious about having sex, or feeling anxious when you have sex – Tantric method is a powerful sex therapy technique for women to recondition this response. READ

Feeling shame in sex

If you feel shame about sex or ashamed when you are having sex, a Tantric massage will teach you how to have a different experience and give you a better vision. READ

Feeling shut down in sex / feeling shut off

If you feel generally shut down or shut off in sex, then Tantric massage can be a great healing and revitalising process that focuses directly on your body to revitalise your sexual vitality and your sexual feelings. READ

Fear of penetration / anxiety about intercourse

If you feel fear of penetration or experience anxiety about sexual intercourse, Tantric massage works as an effective sex therapy that clears this pattern directly from your bodily experience. READ

Vaginal contraction at penetration – vaginismus

If you suffer from this painful involuntary contraction at penetration, called vaginismus, then Tantric massage can in many cases be a powerful treatment for this condition – you heal by reconditioning the body response directly. READ

No feeling / numbness / little sensation in the vagina during sex / penetration / intercourse

Tantric therapy can provide help if you don’t feel much during sex, have little sensation or even feeling completely numb in the vagina during penetration / intercourse. READ

Pain in the vagina. Painful sex / intercourse / penetration

If you need treatment for vaginal pains, if your sex is painful whether during intercourse or penetration, then sex therapy by Tantric massage can often help – it gives direct healing to the vagina. READ

Sex addiction in women

If you have compulsive or addictive sexual behaviour, Tantric therapy addresses sex addiction in women at the core – giving you a new vision of healthy, nourishing sexuality. READ

Not feeling confident in sex

If you have lack of confidence in yourself as a sexual woman, you don’t feel confident during sex, then Tantric massage can help you connect with yourself. READ

Healing sexual blocks

There is a wide range of blockages that women describe as sexual blocks. Tantric massage can focus on each one specifically and give a powerful sex therapy  and healing to resolve most blocks that you feel in sex. READ

NOT SURE? FEEL FREE TO ASK

It’s hard to decide it all on your own – because you don’t know much about this. I can help you from my experience.

If you are not sure it’s ok – you can just discuss it with me.

Please email and tell me about your reasons for wanting to see me, what you need help with. I will be happy to tell you whether I can help.

If it is something I can help with, we can set up a phone chat to discuss more in detail. I can explain to you more how my sessions would work in your case and we can discuss reassurances, safety and comfort for you.

This way you can explore the possibility without anything to lose or to risk and then you can decide if it is right for you.

Remember that you can also start with online consultations, which really helps.

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