Sex therapy and help for feeling disconnected from you body in sex, in London

If you are looking for a sex therapist in London to help you with a disconnection from your body in sex, you can try the Tantric approach to sexual healing which I provide in my practice Tantric Therapy London. It provides a powerful alternative to talking sex therapy for this problem, by working directly with your body.

Many women feel disconnected from the body in sex.

You may feel that you are almost not there, with your body going through the motions.

You may feel that your body is not responding during sex, has no feeling – or very faint feeling.

You may feel that you are busy in your head and struggling to be present in sex with your partner.

You are frustrated, you try your best to connect but sex feels like a distant and detached experience.

There can be various causes for feeling disconnected from your body in sex.

Many of the clients I have worked with practice sex in a way that isn’t sensitive, loving or engaging for your body, and your body feels mechanically stimulated – so it disconnects / shuts down in response to that.

For other clients the cause of disconnect from their body in sex is being in their head during sex, feeling pressured, self-conscious or anxious, unable to relax and enjoy, and that makes it a struggle to feel connected to your body.

Often a disconnect from your body during sex can come from sexual trauma or abuse – in which case it can be quite pronounced – or simply from disappointing and uncomfortable consistent sex with a previous partner.

Sometimes women lose connection to their body during sex in a particular moment, or in a particular place. For example, a sufferer of sexual trauma may feel good during foreplay but suddenly feel numb and disconnected within the vagina during penetrative sex.

It is not essential to work on the causes – is more helpful to learn remedies to deal with that disconnect from your body during sex and get into a better connection with your body.

I have worked with many women with this problem. The improvement generally comes easy and is very straightforward, once you approach this directly though the body. It’s about leaning to listen to your body and re-establishing your mind-body connection.

We can work on this issue in two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you.

How Tantric Massage can help with feeling connected to your body in sex.

Learn a better way of engaging your body

Often, how your body is treated is a big cause of your problems with feeling disconnected. If physical contact is mechanical, objective-oriented, then your body will withdraw into numbness. The tantric massage will show how different your body may feel when it is treated with a more present, loving, communicative touch. There is also a certain sequence of arousal that you need to learn for your body if you have this problem. Once you understand this from experience you will be able to recreate this yourself in sex, or communicate it to your partners.

Learn the mental technique of connection to you body in sex

There are specific Tantric sexual techniques on how to be more present in your body during sensations, how to enhance sensations and how to stay with your feeling.

These are sexual techniques – but not physical techniques. Without practicing these techniques your mind may be too overwhelmed by distractions, anxieties, pressures or emotional triggers. This can create a block between you and your body, or a negative reaction in the body that leads to numbness.

The tantric massage is a chance for you to learn these techniques with my guidance, practice it and get better at them.

Learn how to connect to your body emotionally during sex.

It is also very important for a woman to connect emotionally with her body during sex and feel it as a loved, happy, living space rather than a machine to work for pleasure. It is a human and intimate connection with yourself and it contributes hugely to how connected you will feel. This is also a state of mind, similar to a technique, that I can teach you and you can practice during the tantric massage.

Develop the sensitivity in your body

You can feel a disconnection from your body in sex because you simply struggle to feel enough, and this causes frustration. A tantric massage makes your body more alive, more sensitive and more responsive. With greater sensitivity you will find it easier to feel and stay connected to your body during sex.

More information on Tantric massage:

For more information read about Tantric massage for women.

You can also read about the Yoni massage part of the Tantric massage

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to treat your problem, maybe even out of your comfort zone.

But if you think logically, it is the most effective.

In sexuality you can read and talk all you want but when the real moment comes your mind and body react instinctively – from their conditioning, habit, experience. They don’t remember what you talked about, they act from what they felt, what they trust, what they believe from experience.

Working with the body through Tantric massage:
– You learn from real experience in your body – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your body receives profound healing from real positive experience
– Your body builds up its knowledge of feelings
– Your body learns to respond naturally and easily
– Your body wakes up to life from real sexual energy
– You learn how to connect to your body in real practice

Working with direct responses of body and mind this is a profound transformation and healing. It becomes the way you are, your natural state.

With the help of this practice you can learn to feel your body easily, to the minute detail, sensitive to all changes and wishes of your body, feeling the richness of sexual energy in every moment.

I’ve worked with a lot of women on this problem of feeling a disconnection from your body during sex and i have a well developed specific process and method that has a high rate of success.

How consultations can help you deal with this problem

When you work on the disconnect from your body during sex, the benefit of bodywork is that you achieve a real transformation in how you relate to your body. You develop an ability. A tantric massage a much more effective route than talking.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with this issue.


I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist. These therapists are not allowed physical contact with a client.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide solution and / or improvement through an alternative approach to sex therapy that is explicitly based in the client being touched in a sexual / sensual way as a guided and educational experience. I do not use bodyworks that involve non-sexual touch, nor do I provide talking therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals to support your work.


I understand that this is a big step and you are anxious. It is also hard to decide it on your own whether the Tantric massage is right for you and how it would work – because you don’t know much about this.

I would be very happy to set up a free 20-30 minute phone call where we can talk it through – at no commitment.

All I ask is that you first send me some details on your situation and what you wanted to see me about, so I can see whether I can help. I would also need to send you some info on how I currently work, and if you are ok with that I will then be happy to set up a time for us to talk.

This way you can explore the possibility without anything to lose or to risk and then you can decide if it is right for you.

Remember that you can also start with online consultations, and then progress to Tantric massage from there.

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