Sex therapy and help for feeling shut down or shut off in sex, in London

If you have the experience of ‘feeling shut down’ in sex, then you can try to treat address this sex problem in a more body-focused way, which I provide in my practice Tantric Therapy London. It is a very effective remedy to address this problem – because it directly revitalises your sexuality and puts you in touch with your feelings through your body

When my clients describe themselves as ‘feeling shut down’, or ‘feeling shut off’ in their sexuality, it can be a range of different experiences.

Some women don’t feel themselves much as a sexual person, don’t feel in touch with the sexual woman in them and generally carry on with their life without feeling that part of themselves alive.

Some women feel like there isn’t much sexual feelings in their body, like it is asleep and doesn’t have sexual movement or sexual desire.

Some women refer more to how they feel in sex itself. Feeling shut down may feel like it is difficult to awaken feelings in your body, to engage it and and to stir up the flow of sexual energy.

The body may respond poorly to sexual contact and your mind / feelings may experience sex as distant or awkward. The general sensation can be that you struggle to connect with sexual feelings during sex.

Some women feel that they shut down in sex because they feel pressure, or anxiety, or self-consciousness, or a lack of trust, and this disconnects them from the moment.

There can be different experiences but overall you feel that you have low sexual vitality / response and you struggle to connect and feel in sex.

There are also many causes why women feel shut down / shut off in sex.

It could be a result of <sexual trauma> – an intense episode of something negative, or a more gradual process of negative sexual relations with someone.

It could be a <lack of confidence> in sex, or <anxieties> that enter the moment of sex, or pressures, self-consciousness and insecurities. They can cause you to shut off from your sexual moment.

You might be someone who hasn’t had sexual experiences that really opened the sexual feeling in you fully. You might not know how to engage your body to make it feel alive – and the experience in the end is of your body being shut down.

You might have even felt shut off from sex all your life, or most of your life.

Often, when you spend some time without a sex life you can find yourself disconnected from your sexuality and out of touch with it. This can also feel like a shut down.

You don’t need to work out the cause – call me and I can assess for you what is likely to be the best approach.

How Tantric massage can help you revitalise your sex life if you feel shut down from sex

Revitalising your body with sexual energy

In the Tantric massage we work directly with your body, awakening the sexual energy in you.

Your sexual body comes to life, opens and fills up with sexual vitality.

When you feel shut down in sex you need a special approach to awaken your body. You can’t just have any sex with your partner and come sexually alive – this is the problem you experience.

With a special Tantric technique in this more focused and framed bodywork we awaken your body in a more profound way that pulls your sexuality from this block and then we carefully let your sexual energy unfold further.

You literally fill up with sexual energy and this brings your sexual vitality back to life.

You will feel it with you after the Tantric massage in your day.

Teaching you to connect to your body and enhance your sexual feelings

You also struggle to connect with your sexual feelings yourself.

In the Tantric massage I will teach you special techniques – how to connect to your body better, how to be more present with your feelings, how to feel more, how to enhance the sensation of your sexual energy.

If you practise these techniques you will be able to help yourself to feel more and to help your body come alive in the moment of sex.

Creating a new nurturing vision of sexuality

Often, women feel shut down in sex because the sex itself doesn’t feel very nourishing – it can feel mechanical, like going through the motions, and sometimes it can feel like an unloving and disconnected experience.

If you feel sex this way then it is normal to retreat and shut yourself from feeling sex or wanting it.

It is not just about your partner – it is also about your own knowledge how to create the sex that feels nourishing for you.

Tantric sexuality is a new vision of sexual energy being nurturing, loving, enriching for your body, mind and heart.

Tantric sexuality is more aligned with what a woman really needs to feel in sex.

The Tantric massage will let you experience this different quality of sexual energy. From here you will feel more open and willing to invite sexuality into your life – and you will know how to create it on the level that is right for you.

More information on Tantric massage:

To learn more read the full information on Tantric massage for women in London.

You can also read about Yoni massage technique for healing.

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to treat your problem, maybe even out of your comfort zone.

But if you think logically, it is the most effective.

If you are feeling shut down in sex and shut off from it you can read and talk all you want but it is not touching the real aliveness in your being, it is not awakening you.

You need a real experience of sexual energy in you to unfold from there.

Working with the body through Tantric massage:
– You awaken from the real experience in your body – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your body is recharged and revitalised with sexual energy.
– Your body is healed by this real positive experience
– Your body learns that sexuality feels positive, nurturing, it build up trust and openness.
– Your body starts to respond naturally.

Working with direct responses of body and mind this is a profound transformation and healing. You become someone different, it’s not just reading or hearing an idea.


I have a lot of experience treating women who felt shut down in sex. Every case is different of course, and it depends on your particular causes. However, in general the tantric massage has been a very effective sex therapy to bring sexual vitality into their life in a fast way.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any therapy / treatment it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.


You don’t need to decide on your own if having a tantric
massage is the right thing for you.
It is not your job.
It is my job as a professional to explain to you how
tantric massage can serve you.
It is my job as a professional to reassure you that this
will be useful, safe and comfortable.
As a client, your next step is just to discuss this with me
without making any decisions, and see if this feels right.
There is nothing to lose or to risk – a phone chat is safe and anonymous for you at distance.

Take advantage of my free initial phone consultation