Body-focused therapy and healing to recover from sexual abuse, in London

Tantric therapy is unconventional – it is a kind of sex therapy that works directly with the body and directly with sexual feelings and responses. However, this is precisely what makes it a very effective treatment and sex therapy to heal and recover from effects of sexual abuse.

Sexual abuse usually happened far in your past, so the effect on your sex life at present may be more deep-seated, diluted and not as intense or acute as, say, from a recent <sexual assault>. This is why i differentiate these problems as in my experience they need fairly different treatments.

Where sexual abuse does have an impact there is a very diverse range. Discomfort and shame about sex. Extreme anxiety about sex. Mild anxiety about sex. Promiscuous behaviour. Self-destructive sexual relationships. Physical numbness in sex. Freezing in sex. Emotional disconnect in sex. I’ve had clients with all these expressions – not at the same time – and more. People feel the effects of sexual abuse diversely.

Sexual abuse can have deep psychological implications on your life in general and for people who feel that impact it is important to seek help of qualified psychotherapist. I can’t help with non sex-related issues of this kind.

Where sexual abuse affects your sex life specifically, I do provide treatment / sex therapy for people – and my approach and method tends to be very effective for improving specifically your sex life and sexual relationships.

Many people process sexual abuse in therapy and find a better place within themselves psychologically and emotionally, but they may still find that when it comes to the physical moment of sex their sexual responses and feelings are not completely in the clear and remain tainted by the abuse.

There can often be a limitation to the talking therapy in these cases because the body, and the ‘body-mind’ so to speak, have their own memory. It is very helpful to take an experiential approach to change your feeling of sexuality itself, and to rewire the experience in your body – through a body-centred treatment / therapy for sexual abuse such as a professional Tantric massages.

How I work with sexual abuse

On one hand, for most people who have suffered sexual abuse this experience creates a deep-seated subconscious feeling that sex is something threatening, harmful to you, emotionally menacing and edgy in some way, no matter how much you would like to healthily enjoy it with your partners.

To heal this you will need a general change of your vision of sex to create a new respectful, positive, nurturing vision of sexuality that your body and mind will trust from now on. You can’t just decide to believe it – you need real experience that shows this to your body and instinctive mind. We can achieve that for you through experiences of the Tantric massage.

However, on the other hand since effects are so diverse, in sex it is not useful to focus on ’treating sexual abuse’. In the healing related to sexual abuse we have to focus on the specific problems you are having at the moment in sex.

In addition, it is not a fact that your problems stem from your sexual abuse. It seems logical to assign all sexual difficulties to abuse but for many people without history of sexual abuse sex can still be problematic and even traumatic. It could be due to negative experience with partners or poor approach to yourself and your body in sex.

It’s best to focus in practical terms on what you can improve in your experience right now, and how. This is the most useful approach – rather than going into the whens and whys we will take the situation as it is, assess where you are having problems and improve proactively on those areas.

We will use some powerful methods to help you create positive and healthy sexual energy in your life now. You will heal from those methods and learn them for your life.

Please note: I am not a psychotherapist or counsellor, and I can’t provide professional crisis-management through talking therapy. If you have intense and acute emotional turmoil on the basis of sexual abuse, you need to resolve it in therapy before we start work.

However, if you only have some general settled negative feelings about your sexual wellbeing and sexual events that happened in the past – this is normal and most people do. Usually by doing our treatment / healing those will get resolved.

A large proportion of my clientele has been women seeking to heal sexual abuse. The positive and proactive approach has been very helpful. Working directly through the body is also extremely effective and powerful.

It’s about healing your body directly, creating a more positive vision of sexuality for you from experience, and teaching you how to create more meaningful and beneficial sexual energy.

We can provide sex therapy on sexual abuse two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you in our treatments / therapy.

How Tantric massage can help you heal / recover from sexual abuse

You create a new positive version of sex

Sex has been tainted by your experience – there is some discomfort and distrust of sex as in some way harmful for you.

A Tantric massage gives you a real experience of sexual energy as something positive, meaningful, for your wellbeing, for your enrichment, for connection.

It is not like the experiences you might have had before which probably didn’t convince you much. You experience that extra depth and benefit of sexual energy in Tantric massage and you grow to believe in sexuality.

You let go of guilt, shame, discomfort about sexual feelings.

 

Your body heals and trusts
Through the direct experience, your body learns that the sexual contact can be loving, respectful, generous and positive.

Your body opens, trusts, forms a positive relationship, feels respected.

From this trust your body regains its healthy and willing sexual response.

Address specific problems

As mentioned, sexual abuse can result in specific difficulties in sex, some of them listed in sex therapy for women. Those problems will need their own methods and we can include those in the Tantric massage. We can discuss your issues and I will offer solutions.

Change your patterns
You may unknowingly perpetuate some sort of self-harming or toxic pattern in your sex life due to the direction on which your sexuality was pushed in the abuse.

Through Tantric massage you reform your feeling of sexuality, your vision of sex and you correct your direction to healthy, loving, respectful sexuality. You become intrinsically motivated to keep your sex life this way from now on.

You break the pattern, start a new sex life on a different footing and you can form a better kind of relationship.

More information on Tantric massage:

To understand more read complete info on Tantric massage therapy in London.

You can also read about the use of Yoni massage for sexual healing.

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to treat your problem, maybe even out of your comfort zone.

But if you think logically, it is the most effective.

In sexuality you can read and talk all you want but when the real moment comes your mind and body react instinctively – from their conditioning, habit, experience. They don’t remember what you talked about, they act from what they felt, what they trust, what they believe from experience.

Healing sexual abuse through Tantric massage:
– You learn from real experience in your body – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your body receives profound healing from real positive experience
– Your body builds up positive memories and trust
– Your body reconditions to a natural positive response
– Your body is awakened with real sexual energy
– You gain control over your mind and responses in real practice

Working with direct responses of body and mind this is a profound transformation and healing. You become someone different, it’s not just reading or hearing an idea.

We will take all the necessary caution to create a safe space for you, whether everything will go at your pace, with your comfort, and you will be fully in control. It will be a completely professional and structured treatment process for healing.

How my consultations can help you deal with sexual abuse

When you are trying to heal the impact of sexual abuse, a body-centred approach works very well as a remedy because you heal and recondition your body directly. It becomes a very effective treatment for this problem.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with your particular difficulties.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any therapy / treatment it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.

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You don’t need to decide on your own if having a tantric
massage is the right thing for you.
It is not your job.
It is my job as a professional to explain to you how
tantric massage can serve you.
It is my job as a professional to reassure you that this
will be useful, safe and comfortable.
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