Sex therapy and help to start a sex life if you never had sex, in London

If you have never had sex and are looking for help to start your sex life, then a Tantric massage used in a supportive and healing therapeutic space can be an ideal practical way to start awakening sexually and be able to form relationships.

I have worked with a fair few women who needed some sort of therapy or treatment or help with the situation that they never had sex and a Tantric massage offers a very helpful method to help women start a sex life with a partner.

Some women, for one reason or another, don’t start a sex life at an earlier age.

The problem is that this situations tends to lock you in. The more time passes the more you feel anxious about what sex would feel like, whether you would be ok in it, or you feel insecure as a lover and shy to start a relationship and reveal that you have never been sexually with a man.

Added to that is usually the fear of physical discomfort or pain.

Unfortunately these feelings push you to avoid a sexual relationship further.

It is also an understandable anxiety. You may meet someone but that person might not know how to approach a woman who has never had sex with enough care – both for her psychological and physical comfort. He may also assume that you have a lot of experience and enjoy things in sex which would be traumatic for you for the first time.

It is an understandable anxiety, as this is indeed a gamble and a risk – you might get lucky or you might not.

This is why these clients may never end up being with a man until at some point they start looking for some sort of therapy or treatment or professional help for the situation when you have never had sex.

In this situation a Tantric massage offers a perfect transition.

How Tantric Massage can help if you have never had sex

A tantric massage is a very controlled experience to give you sexual feelings, in a guided and supportive environment. You could see it almost a experiential coaching. This is why it is an exceptionally effective supportive remedy for women who have never had sex.

You experience your body sexually, you become familiar with how it feels.

It creates positive experience for you. Through this positive experience you feel less anxious about sex. Your body remembers sexual feelings as an enriching and safe experience and looks forward to it in another situation.

Your anxiety about sex greatly reduces.

This is a guided and supportive space for your development. So not only you receive this positive experience, I also support you every step of the way to help you feel less anxious, more positive, more engaged, more in your body.

These abilities will help you when you are with a man.

We perform this process for you always at your level of comfort. It can be gradually broken down into phases any way you want. Some clients prefer the full Tantric massages from the outset, others prefer to do it in stages.

Because you are in control and you set your preferences, you feel more relaxed, positive and less anxious – as you don’t run the risk of experiencing something you didn’t want.

From my experience with women who have never had sex I can also structure the process for you in the optimum way, so that you are moving along but with no discomfort.

Your confidence also grows, as you get to know your body, what it likes, how it feels, how it needs to be treated. You are no longer someone with zero sexual experience – you actually get to know yourself sexually fairly well.

I have worked with a considerable number of clients in this situation, and this is a very straightforward process. It is very easy for you to reclaim your intimate life with this approach.

More information on Tantric massage:

To understand more please read about professional Tantric bodywork for women.

You can also read about my practice of Yoni massage in London.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any healing process it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.


I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist. These therapists are not allowed physical contact with a client.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide solution and / or improvement through an alternative approach to sex therapy that is explicitly based in the client being touched in a sexual / sensual way as a guided and educational experience. I do not use bodyworks that involve non-sexual touch, nor do I provide talking therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals to support your work.


I understand that this is a big step and you are anxious. It is also hard to decide it on your own whether the Tantric massage is right for you and how it would work – because you don’t know much about this.

I would be very happy to set up a free 20-30 minute phone call where we can talk it through – at no commitment.

All I ask is that you first send me some details on your situation and what you wanted to see me about, so I can see whether I can help. I would also need to send you some info on how I currently work, and if you are ok with that I will then be happy to set up a time for us to talk.

This way you can explore the possibility without anything to lose or to risk and then you can decide if it is right for you.

Remember that you can also start with online consultations, and then progress to Tantric massage from there.

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