Sex therapy and help for vaginal pains and painful sex, in London

If you are looking for any of the following:
– treatment for vaginal pains / pains in the vagina during sex
– therapy for painful sex / intercourse
– remedy for painful penetration
Tantric therapy offers a form of body-focused sex therapy that works directly with your body and can potentially heal pain in the vagina during sex further than many other forms of treatment.

Many women complain of painful sex: pain during penetration and pains throughout the intercourse.

Not all pains in the vagina are the same. You can have painful penetration or intercourse for a variety of reasons, and vaginal pains during sex can have different profiles.

Working with my sex therapy practice in London I am well experienced in treating different reasons for painful sex or penetration that hurts. Some need healing / treatment, or a form of bodily therapy to resolve, and others are a matter of poor technique and can be fixed with educating yourself on the best approach, where therapy is not needed as such.

Here are some of the types of pains in the vagina that women seek sex therapy and treatment to heal:

Friction pain
This is the pain at the entrance of the vagina which will normally hurt like a stinging burn during the intercourse. The pain will normally come on later in the intercourse rather than at penetration. Sometimes you won’t feel it until after the intercourse.

This kind of vaginal pain in sex can easily be avoided by going slower and using more lubricant. You need to learn a better technique for the intercourse. You also need to be aware that natural lubrication fluctuates and not be afraid to use a lubricant when you need to.

Stretching pain
This kind of pain in the vagina during sex also happens at the entrance of the vagina. The sensation is of being stretched too much. This can happen in a difference in sizes, or when a woman hasn’t had sex for a long time and doesn’t have sex regularly.

To treat this sort of painful sex you most of all need to fix the technique. You need to learn to be profoundly aroused, and the penetration techniques needs to be much more gentle. You need to control the pace of the intercourse to allow the vagina to adjust. I can give you advice.

Pain in the depth of the vagina
This kind of pain in the vagina during sex is felt at the back of the vagina, as more of a dull bruising pain.

The cause of this form of painful intercourse can be that the vagina is too short for the penis. To remedy this you need to control the depth of penetration.

However, in some women that area of the vagina hurts because of the stored emotional trauma and holding yourself back from opening enough to your partner. In this case the Tantric massage can be an effective remedy to clear this block.

Vaginismus

Vaginismus is the contraction of the vagina in fear of penetration. The pain is at the entrance, as a bruising, forced pain, where your body obstructs the penetration.

This sort of painful penetration is linked to your anxieties about penetration and sex. I work with a specific method of Tantric massage to give treatment to vaginismus. Please read here

Unspecified sharp pain in the vagina 

Sometimes women have sharp pains inside the vagina during sex which are difficult for doctors to explain. These pains are usually stinging, sharp moments within the vagina rather than at the entrance.

Often there doesn’t seem to be any cause.

However, from my experience I have seen that this sort of vaginal pain can develop from a prolonged negative sexual state – such as aftermath of sexual trauma, or a bad relationship where you continued to have sex.

It can be an emotional reaction of the body rejecting sex.

This sort of painful sex can be treated with Tantric massage by giving healing to the vagina and empowering positive feelings in the vagina. However, they can sometimes need a long treatment.

Medical pains

Other medical causes can create painful sex or painful penetration. Sometimes doctors diagnose hypersensitivity of the nerves, sometimes there can be medical conditions going on in the area.

I cannot help with this form of vaginal pain, but I can offer you workarounds you can use in your sex life, or a better technique that will reduce them.

It is important that you first of all check for medical conditions with a doctor if you experience painful sex or painful penetration.

I have given sex therapy / treatment in my London studio to many women who experienced vaginal pains, pain in intercourse or painful penetration.

It is not always possible to resolve them, but in many cases the treatment can eliminate pains in the vagina or at least improve them.

We can provide sex therapy on this issue in two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

It will depend on each case – please call me and I will try to assess what might be the cause of your pain and what we could do in terms of treatment / healing for the painful sex you are having.

How Tantric massage can give sex therapy / treatment for pains in the vagina, painful sex or painful penetration

The method will vary a lot depending on your particular causes of painful intercourse, so please give me a call to discuss. However, in general the Tantric massage would treat pains in sex in these general directions:

Learn the right technique

It is fundamental that you fix the physical technique. The way everyone has sex following the mainstream vision of vaginal penetration is at least not very understanding of the vagina, and at worst bad for the vagina.

You may be thinking that you are having sex in the way you should, and the way everyone does, while it will invariably cause pains during the intercourse.

Tantric sexuality is much more understanding of the female body and you will pick up better technique from it.

You need to understand what the contact inside the vagina really should feel like. How to move through the vagina, where to stimulate it, the strength, the depth, the pace, the variety – all the points that mainstream technique misunderstands completely.

The Tantric massage, and in particular the Yoni massage part which focuses on the vagina, will let you explore the different kind of touch and sensation that you should aim for.

Of course it is just a massage done by a hand but from here you can understand how you should approach the intercourse to avoid pains.

Many of the vaginal pains that women typically have in sex disappear with the right technique.

Self-heal by learning to create a positive connection inside the vagina.

Many of the pains in the vagina during sex also have emotional causes.

To give therapy, treatment and healing to these causes of painful sex, you need to learn to create a positive emotional space inside the vagina.

Normally the emotional feeling inside the vagina could be negative if you have painful sex. It could be past trauma, or anxiety about pain, or frustration, or shut down.

I will teach you special Tantric techniques to bring a more positive, happy feeling into your vagina and connect through it.

This usually enhances positive sexual energy in your vagina and that positive energy from experience often has a strong effect on eliminating your emotionally caused pains in the vagina.

It is a process of self-healing, where you create a different positive relationship with the vagina, with my help.

You can continue with this process on your own once you learn the techniques.

Healing touch for the vagina

The Yoni massage is a very healing experience.

In this therapy / treatment your vagina is treated like never before, with loving nurturing touch, respect and care.

This experience is healing both physically and emotionally, on the body level, in the instinctive feeling of the body.

It can help you to let relax the emotional tension and negativity stored in your vagina, and clear the vagina to respond willingly, openly and positively to touch.

This can often help to treat the pains you have in the intercourse or in penetration.

Learning to relax and open your body to arousal

Your arousal is very important if your vagina has pains and you have painful sex.

Your body needs to come fully alive, feel loved, nurtured, awakened, but also soft, open and relaxed. You have to be present and relaxed in your mind in your arousal too.

Then your vagina is at its most open, sensitive, soft and relaxed, and this can help you avoid painful sex or painful penetration.

Most women never learn how to fully awaken their bodies sexually, they operate from mainstream knowledge on half-powered sexual stimulation that doesn’t engage you very well.

If you are looking for treatment / therapy for painful sex then it’s likely you are also anxious and stressed during your arousal as you anticipate those pains.

The Tantric massage will teach you to connect to your body with more presence, more positively, to awaken it in a deeper way, and also to relax your body and mind.

This will result in a more positive experience in your vagina.

More information on Tantric massage:

To understand more read complete info on Tantric massage therapy for women.

In particular this problem is addressed with Yoni massage for vaginal pains.

Tantric massage may seem like too much of a direct way to give sex therapy / treatment for pains in the vagina, painful intercourse and pain during penetration.

But if you think logically, it can be very effective.

Through Tantric massage:

– You learn from real experience in your vagina – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your vagina receives profound healing from real positive experience
– Your vagina builds up positive memories and trust
– Your vagina reconditions to a natural positive response
– Your vagina is awakened with real sexual energy
– You gain control over your mind and responses in real practice

No amount of reading or talking can achieve this for you.

How my consultations can help you heal vaginal pains, pain in intercourse or painful penetration

The most effective approach to treating painful sex through therapy is to give healing physically directly to the vagina.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with your particular difficulties.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any therapy / treatment it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.

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