Body-focused therapy and healing to recover from sexual assault, in London

Tantric therapy method of providing sex therapy can offer you a component of recovery from sexual assault that wouldn’t be covered in the treatment by psychotherapy and counselling. By working directly with the body in a controlled and supportive space you regain your feeling, connection with your body, trust and confidence.

Treatment for sexual assault / rape are extremely serious situations. Before working with me it is important that you have processed your experience with a qualified psychotherapist or counsellor, or otherwise have reached a stable emotional state.

There is often a certain limitation to psychotherapy and counselling when working with sexual assault and rape. They can help you improve your emotional wellbeing but you may still feel traumatised when you have sexual contact. I have worked with clients who spent years in therapy without progressing in that particular area.

With your current partner, or starting a new relationship, you may feel that when it comes to sex you have a difficult reaction. Sometimes it is milder, sometimes it can be extreme.

You can feel fear, numbness, freeze response, flashbacks.

At the moment of contact your body’s own memory is activated. There is often a strong threat response just by being in a sexual situation.

When a woman’s body feels a threat it can often shut down sexual feelings and cause you to feel numb, apart from typical fear signs such as physiological stress, shaking and anxiety. The treat can be simply sexual contact, or a flashback brought on by sexual contact.

Once the threat activates it is difficult to bring your body back to normality for some time and sex becomes either turned down in feeling or impossible.

This direct response in your body is impossible for you to control, it’s not under your conscious control areas. It’s a built in threat response in the body.

This is why many clients I have worked with to treat sexual assault or rape have had success with talking therapy to generally feel better, but could not overcome the body response when it actually comes to sex.

This response needs to be calmed down and reconditioned directly through the body, which is where the treatment provided by Tantric massage complements very well your progress.

It is about creating a very safe and controlled space for you where you can allow your body to be touched and to relax little by little, with guidance, reassurance and in small steps.

I have worked with quite a few women to help them recover from sexual assault / rape and this treatment has been in many cases the only one that could help to improve the actual physical response in sex.

However, please call me to discuss your particular situation. It is important that you go through this process in complete safety and we would need to create the right process for you in particular, as well as ensure that you have any complementary professional support you need.

How Tantric massage can help you heal / recover from sexual assault / rape

In Tantric therapy we create a controlled space for you.

We discuss thoroughly what we will do and you are always in full control.

Your body receives loving and nurturing touch which gradually convinces your body to stop reacting with panic and to learn that physical contact is ok.

Your body learns from experience to trust, to relax, and that sexual touch is not a threat.

This process has to start with very calm, nurturing, almost asexual touch and as you get better we can condition your body to feel ok with more and more sexual feelings.

At the start your anxiety will still be present but that is ok – you have to accept it at first and gradually your body will learn that there is no need to feel threatened.

At the same time I give you mental techniques to help yourself in the moment of physical contact. I teach you how to stay in your body to prevent the anxiety as much as possible. I also teach you how to deal with anxiety once it has happened.

This is an ability that you will also gradually get better at, through practice in the real physical contact in Tantric massage.

This is a gradual and controlled process where your comfort is always our priority.

At the end of the healing process your body can completely let go of the fear. It will receive new memories, new experiences that will overwrite the traumatic experience. Your body will learn again that sexual touch is good, positive, desirable. Your body will want to feel it and will respond to it willingly.

You just need to recondition your body physically, in direct experience. It is understandable why this would be impossible with a man in your life – because they wouldn’t know how to deal with this.

To take you through this healing process I have to be extremely careful and very attuned to your response to an extent that a non-professional can’t be. This is why a Tantric massage can offer you the transition back to health.

It is understandable that you will be very anxious of doing sex therapy this way too, but you have to make the first step. After the first step things will start to improve. Try to have a chat with me and we can discuss how we can create safety and reassurance for you to start.

More information on Tantric massage:

Please see booking a Tantric massage session with me in London.

You can also read about the use of Yoni massage for sex therapy.

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to heal sexual assault, perhaps even the last thing you would think about.

But if you think logically, it is can be very effective.

After all the talking and reading in the world your body still gets afraid in real contact. But healing sexual trauma through Tantric massage:
– You learn from real experience in your body – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your body receives profound healing from real positive experience
– Your body builds up positive memories and trust
– Your body reconditions to a natural positive response
– Your body is awakened with real sexual energy
– You gain control over your mind and responses in real practice

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any therapy / treatment it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.

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