Sex therapy and help when you aren’t comfortable receiving in sex, in London

Maybe you are a giver in sex, pleasing your partner, but you are not very good at receiving – you can’t relax and be comfortable to receive in sex. If so, the best alternative to sex therapy for women is Tantric massage, which I provide in my practice Tantric Therapy London, and it can be a very effective way to resolve this problem.

Many women feel the discomfort in the balance of giving and receiving in sex. Many women will be eager to please their partners, but then feel uncomfortable in the moment of receiving, unable to relax and receive in sex.

This usually isn’t about your partner – it is about you and your own ability to relax and enjoy sex.

Women have a very common pattern of snapping into the performance mode, concerned about how your partner feels and trying to do it right for him. And in the process you don’t honour your own sexual energy, you don’t connect with it and you escape it. Often, there are also underlying feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, guilt or shame that you escape from into this performance.

I have worked with many women in this situation and a Tantric massage has been an exceptionally powerful and effective remedy to treat this distortion in your sex life.

We can work on this issue in two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you.

How Tantric Massage can help when you are uncomfortable with / aren’t good at receiving in sex

A tantric massage puts you in a situation where you can no longer escape into busy activity and performance.

This experience is completely for you – you relax and receive. You experience how your own body can be loved and nourished with sexual energy.

In this experience, when you can’t escape into performance, you can only go in, within yourself, and start meeting your feelings.

Just by receiving the Tantric massage you learn how to be more comfortable at receiving in sex.

But of course I will also help you and guide you into a mindset where you can receive more easily and more comfortably.

I will teach you Tantric techniques within yourself which will help you to be more present, to listen to your body and connect with your own sexual energy.

Tantric massage is so effective because there is simply no substitute to learning to receive directly through the body, through experience. It is very difficult to understand this intellectually and to create a change by just thinking about it.

Generally I have an exceptionally high success rate with clients who are not comfortable with receiving in sex.

Potentially this is a fairly straightforward problem to solve with a Tantric massage and you will feel improvement immediately.

I focus particularly on long-term change – from this experience I want you to learn how you can create this easy and relaxed state in sex yourself.

More information on Tantric massage:

For more info see Tantric massage for women in London.

You can also read about Yoni healing.

How consultations can help you deal with this problem

There is no substitute to working directly when you struggle to receive. It is the most effective and faster remedy to provide sex therapy for this problem.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead, in person or by Skype. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with this issue.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any healing process it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.


I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist. These therapists are not allowed physical contact with a client.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide solution and / or improvement through an alternative approach to sex therapy that is explicitly based in the client being touched in a sexual / sensual way as a guided and educational experience. I do not use bodyworks that involve non-sexual touch, nor do I provide talking therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals to support your work.


I understand that this is a big step and you are anxious. It is also hard to decide it on your own whether the Tantric massage is right for you and how it would work – because you don’t know much about this.

I would be very happy to set up a free 20-30 minute phone call where we can talk it through – at no commitment.

All I ask is that you first send me some details on your situation and what you wanted to see me about, so I can see whether I can help. I would also need to send you some info on how I currently work, and if you are ok with that I will then be happy to set up a time for us to talk.

This way you can explore the possibility without anything to lose or to risk and then you can decide if it is right for you.

Remember that you can also start with online consultations, and then progress to Tantric massage from there.

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