For women who experience the contraction of the vagina at penetration, called vaginismus, it can be useful to work directly with the body on this sex problem, which I provide for clients in my practice Tantric Therapy London. Using a Tantric massage is a very effective treatment – as it rewires the natural response of your body.
Sex therapy and treatment for the contraction of the vagina in sex - vaginismus, in London
Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you.
How Tantric massage can provide treatment and sex therapy for vaginismus
Creating a positive space within the vagina with mental and emotional techniques to avoid vaginismus
I don’t believe in treating vaginismus by using physical dilators to ‘condition’ your vagina. They are just a physical item that you can get used to but they don’t deal with your anxiety of penetration with a man in real sex.
In my Yoni massage, which is the part of Tantric massage focused on the vagina, I teach special Tantric techniques to you. They are mental and emotional techniques to create a relaxation in your vagina and a positive anticipation of the connection within the vagina.
By using these techniques you get to the core of the issue – you create a positive and relaxed space inside that actually wants to connect. This counteracts your anxiety and creates openness.
Teaching you how the vagina needs to be approached physically to avoid vaginismus
Too often the penetration technique in sex is too aggressive on the vagina, and contributes to that protective contraction – the vaginismus.
In the Yoni massage I will show you how the vagina really needs to be approached – carefully, gradually, with physical gentleness, to avoid vaginismus.
You will see how much difference that makes and you will be able to recreate this in real sex at home.
Learning relaxed arousal to create relaxation in penetration, to avoid vaginismus
The way you get aroused is also very important for vaginismus.
Arousal is very important to treat vaginismus. The vagina gets aroused from your whole body arousal, not directly. If you can fully awaken your sexual energy profoundly, this will create a much more open and receptive place in your vagina.
Most people learn arousal as something passionate, intense, very active and tense in your emotion and body.
This tension then manifests in your vagina and can bring on contraction at penetration – vaginismus.
You need to learn how to get aroused in a more relaxed way. Your body gradually awakens and softens from loving and nurturing contact. You feel sexually alive but calm and soft.
Then this is how your vagina will feel too and it will be less likely to contract at penetration causing vaginismus.
The Tantric massage shows you this process and this sequence, awakening your whole body gradually with loving and nurturing touch, in relaxation. You can then recreate the same pattern at home.
Reconditioning your body to the positive response.
Your body has a response of anxiety and protection when it comes to sex in general and to penetration in particular, and this is why the vagina contracts in penetration – as a form of protection. Something feels like a threat, whether physical or only emotional.
Through the Tantric massage your body learns that sexual touch is nurturing, loving and positive. It is a very different experience to wha you might have had before that scared you.
Your body learns that it is ok, it can open and trust.
Your body loses the protective response, your vagina stops instinctively contracting in penetration and your body starts responding positively to sexual contact – accepting it with softness, relaxation and willingness.
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In particular this problem is addressed with Yoni massage for vaginismus.
How my consultations can help you deal with vaginismus
When you work with this instinctive contraction of your body during sex there is no substitute to reconditioning it through direct experience int he body.
However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with your particular difficulties.
As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any therapy / treatment it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.