MY APPROACH AS A SEX COACH AND TANTRIC SEX TEACHER

When people ask me what I do I often wouldn’t say I am a Tantric sex teacher. I say I teach a different version of sex that gives a richer, more loving and healthier relationship.

Because if I say I teach Tantric sex people would youtube it – and I don’t want them to think that I teach THAT.

What is mostly out there in the name of Tantric sex for a reasonable couple has no attraction. It’s some sort of complicated exercises, new age fashions, overplayed rituals, group workshops on spiritual exercises, Hindu gods and spiritual wording that doesn’t feel like much substance.

You’d find it very difficult to see how this can improve your sexual relationship, or how to mutilate natural flow of sex into such bizarre practices. You don’t want to join a new age cult. You are not looking to learn about Tantra as a spiritual path – because if you wanted to you could read proper literature on that.

You want a greater experience of your sexual energy together. You want a real and practical way to make your sex richer, more loving, more meaningful and fulfilling. You want to learn about sexuality and lovemaking. You simply heard that Tantric sex offers a good alternative.

This is my focus with you as your sex coach and specifically a Tantric sex teacher. What i teach is true Tantric sex at its heart – a real practice that takes you into the Tantric dimension. But I focus on teaching you a practical approach for sex.

I am a teacher of Tantric sex as a skill, a science and an art of a higher level of lovemaking. The purpose of my coaching is to teach you about sex and nothing else. I focus only on the things that are involved in having sex. I teach you how to transform that practice with new techniques and attitudes.

I don’t teach anything that is not involved in sex because I find it a waste of your time. You will learn Tantric sex by having it, not by doing exercises for it.

I have worked with couples for 15 years. This has been intensely focused professional experience of working with sexually specifically, rather than a general teaching of Tantra with some sexuality work from time to time.

I have been a Tantric sex teacher / sex coach to a great number of couples and I have been very happy to see that with rare exceptions all of them walked out inspired at the new possibilities and having learned heaps of practical things they did know before.

They also found my Tantric sex workshops in London a very relaxed and comfortable experience.

Every couple is a unique story and I have developed the focus to quickly access your own unique situation and offer you the most useful practices for you specifically.

I have a lot of experience in resolving difficult situations and problems.

All these years, I have also worked with women in direct experience through tantric massage for women. I have specialised in female sexuality.

The value I offer in my Tantric sex teaching in London is not just in the quality of what is learned. I personalise each consultation or workshop especially for you, I don’t just teach standard content.

I want to assess very clearly where you are and what you need and give you the most impactful practices for you personally.

I often allow sessions to unfold organically. As you are talking to me you gain more clarity about what you need to receive from me today and I adapt it for you in the moment.

I teach Tantric sex to all people, with no need for specific spiritual beliefs

Many of the Tantric workshops are heavily based in the Hinduist system of beliefs. This creates an impression that learning Tantric sex is a religious conversion or a practice of something esoteric or exotic.

I dislike that myself and I teach Tantric sex as a common sense knowledge about how the body, mind and emotions go together to create a better experience. I teach Tantric sex completely outside of any cultural or religious reference.

I think that client’s philosophy on life or spiritual beliefs are irrelevant to picking up this knowledge.

Tantric Sex Has To Remain Real Sex

Lovemaking should always remain such, Tantric or not – it is first of all about enjoyment, love, desire, pleasure, unity, creativity. Tantric or not, you want to make love, not do Kung Fu or pray.

My style of Tantric sex coaching is to not ask you to do meditations at home, energy exercises, and morning routines. You will learn everything you need from practicing sex itself, living it and creating it.

That’s what we focus on in our Tantric sex teaching. If you are a kind of couple who is attracted by the spiritual dimension of Tantra, you will find it naturally by going more into what the sexual connection really is, expanding and deepening from there. It happens by itself. If this is of no interest, you will just have a better love life – and a better life in general.

– To Talk About Real Sex. Some couples wonder if Tantric sex feels like some weird practice that doesn’t feel sexual – and it might, if you learn from the wrong places.

I won’t teach you some imaginary spirit sex in a lotus position. You want to feel pleasure, desire, love, connection, beauty, fun, creativity. You don’t want to be channeling energy and convince yourself it feels like making love. You want sex feels that feels like sex, but better and richer.

– To Accept Where You Are Now. Some couples may see Tantric sex as a complete overhaul into some unachievable advanced skill.

I’m not going to give you a perfected vision, miles away from what you can relate to right now. As an experienced Tantric sex teacher and sex coach, I understand the reality of desires, habits and tastes in the bedroom. I want you to gradually enhance what you already enjoy and try some new things, not to commit to something too alien and give up on all you had before.

– To Respect You Like A Variety Of Things.

Some couples may worry that Tantric sex means you can’t any longer do what you’ve enjoyed before.
Tantric lovemaking will be for one day, something else for another. It is just to add more variety in your life and enjoy more through these principles.

– I Want You To Learn Through Making Love, Not Through Exercises. No one has time for exercises, and in sex you achieve nothing through exercises.

Learn while you enjoy, while you love, discover more and explore in that moment, when everything is alive. That’s the only way it will happen. Who has time for meditating and circulating your energy for an hour daily just to have a better love life? All I teach you about Tantric sex is for you to do in bed, not outside it.

– To Personalise It For You. 

This is not a lecture for you to take it or leave it. It is an individual sex coaching session so I will help you find how you can fit it into your sex life in a way that suits you personally best. And if there are any difficulties in your love life right now, we will address them specifically.

– To Give You Enough to Discover More Through Lovemaking Itself, Today. Some couples are concerned that a tantric workshop is a 7-stage programme drawn out over 2 years.

What good is it if you learn bits and pieces about Tantric sex until one day you know enough to try the Tantric approach. In the workshop I only have time to teach you the basics, but those basics will let you go and enjoy a different whole session of love-making, and if you carry on you will discover more with time. If you can’t make sex out of what you’ve learned, you won’t go on.

– To Speak Your Language – This kind of lovemaking is for everyone.

Not just for followers of any particular spiritual tradition. If you can relate to energy, we will talk about that. If you can relate to the nervous system, this is how we will do it. Tantric approach is just common sense principles and I can teach them to you in your language.

– No Spiritual Beliefs Required. 

Your beliefs are your choice, and I respect that. I am just a Tantric sex teacher and a sex coach, not a spiritual guru. You don’t need to create a system of beliefs to understand these ideas. It is just a more fulfilling lovemaking with more common sense understanding that is often hidden from us through false beliefs.

Many couple feel like they need to find a female sex coach. I understand that, and if this is the main requirement for you above others then obviously I can’t fulfil it.

My opinion is that just like in any other work the gender of the sex coach doesn’t play a part. A professional is a professional – a good one or a not so good one. The main criteria are how useful do you think it will be, what is the value each teacher promises you, and does their approach sound aligned with yours.

I can also bring value as a male Tantric sex teacher specifically:

The main challenge in most situations is how to help a woman to reach her full potential in sex. As an expert in female sexuality I have considerable experience in working directly with women, in a practical way – more than a typical female teacher would. I can offer my extensive experience to help you.

On the other hand, I can also offer considerable value to the male partner. Women respond very well to this way of lovemaking but for men it can be a process of reconciling their more explosive sexual nature with these ideas. I can relate to the pressures of male sexuality, I have walked my own journey in it, and I can offer valuable advice to men to help them enjoy this different approach to intimacy but without feeling they are giving up on what they like, or doing something strange and alien. I don’t just strive for men to understand women, as some tutors would, I strive for women to understand men too.