Sex therapy and help for feeling shame in sex. For women in London

If you feel shame about sex or ashamed when you are having sex, a body-centred alternative to standard sex therapy, which I provide in my practice Tantric Therapy London, will teach you how to have a different experience and give you a better vision.

Many women experience shame when they are having sex, like they are doing something unpleasant, something they shouldn’t be doing.

Feeling shame in sex can create in women an overwhelming feeling of self-consciousness, inability to relax, to flow in the moment of sex. If you are a woman who feels shame in sex you may even avoid sex with your partner or have sex in a way that is not fulfilling for either of you.

Shame in sex is often attributed to culture and upbringing. While this can indeed create the base for feeling shame in sex in your adulthood, there is more to it than that.

Our current sexual culture encourages you to have sex in a way that feels not very human, connecting, loving or compassionate.

We are encouraged – in normal sex advice – to demand our pleasure, use each other as stimulus, or use the other person as a tool on your body. In addition our culture pushes us to accept disconnected, mechanical, pornographic or even aggressive sexual practices as something we should desire and enjoy.

It creates a feeling of sex where you don’t feel a human relationship, connection, a meaningful soulful experience. You might not feel that this sort of sex brings something good or important into your life.

It can be difficult to convince yourself that you should want this sort of sex, and to be comfortable performing all the expected sex acts if they are difficult for you to relate to and you don’t feel them as a human relationship you would like to have.

It can be difficult to force yourself into some sort of natural comfort with it.

We can work on this issue in two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you.

How Tantric massage can help you heal / recover from feeling shame in sex

The Tantric massage introduces you to a different vision of sexuality.

You can feel a sexual experience as a beautiful and meaningful experience that nourishes your body, heart and soul.

You can feel a nurturing and loving quality of sexual energy.

You can discover sexuality that is about human connection, nurturing each other and letting love flow.

If you have sex this way then it will make sense to you, you will know that it is something noble and beautiful. You will lose your discomfort about it. You will believe in it.

In every moment you will make love not forcing yourself to be ok with it, but because it really means something to you.

Of course, a Tantric massage is just a controlled bodywork to give you that feeling of sexual energy, to explain to you that vision.

But feeling it through your body you will understand it and you will be able to create that feeling with your partners.

More information on Tantric massage:

To learn more please see about Tantric massage and how it works.

You can also read about Yoni massage in London.

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to treat your problem, maybe even out of your comfort zone.

Especially, if you already feel shame about sex.

But this experience is nothing like you have had before. Tantric sexuality is very different and the feelings it creates are very different.

In sexuality you can read and talk all you want but when the real moment comes your mind and body react instinctively – from their conditioning, habit, experience. They don’t remember what you talked about, they act from what they felt, what they trust, what they believe from experience.

Working with the body through Tantric massage:
– You learn from real experience in your body how a different quality of sexual energy really feels – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– You believe in that reality from your own experience
– Your body builds up positive memories and trust
– Your mind reconditions to perceive sexual energy differently through this experience

Having real experience is a profound transformation and healing. You become someone different, it’s not just reading or hearing an idea.

I have worked with many women who felt shame and discomfort about sex.

Once they could see that sex can be a different thing, can feel different, they began seeing it as something very important in their lives, something they want to nurture themselves with again and again.

Everything can be learned and developed in sex just like in any other area. It’s just some learning of a better way, some practice and some conditioning.

How consultations can help you deal with this problem

When you feel shame in sex, the benefit of  Tantric massage is that you achieve a real transformation in how you relate to the sexual moment. You develop an ability. A tantric massage is a much more effective route than talking.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with this issue.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any healing process it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.


I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist. These therapists are not allowed physical contact with a client.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide solution and / or improvement through an alternative approach to sex therapy that is explicitly based in the client being touched in a sexual / sensual way as a guided and educational experience. I do not use bodyworks that involve non-sexual touch, nor do I provide talking therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals to support your work.


I understand that this is a big step and you are anxious. It is also hard to decide it on your own whether the Tantric massage is right for you and how it would work – because you don’t know much about this.

I would be very happy to set up a free 20-30 minute phone call where we can talk it through – at no commitment.

All I ask is that you first send me some details on your situation and what you wanted to see me about, so I can see whether I can help. I would also need to send you some info on how I currently work, and if you are ok with that I will then be happy to set up a time for us to talk.

This way you can explore the possibility without anything to lose or to risk and then you can decide if it is right for you.

Remember that you can also start with online consultations, and then progress to Tantric massage from there.

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