Most people who come to me for a Tantric massage or a session of Yoni massage therapy in London find that they are more emotionally disconnected in sex than they would like to be. In fact every couple can feel more emotional connection in sex if they learn how, and a Tantric massage is one of the very useful ways of learning it through experience.
The third reason we find it difficult to feel an emotional connection in sex is because while we may note that we don’t feel close in sex, it isn’t actually a value that we strive towards.
Let me explain. So you think that you should feel an emotion in sex – perhaps that feeling of an emotional connection, or closeness in sex. But in real terms, when you start having sex, in that moment – what do you want? You are probably looking for excitement, something that entertains you. Maybe a high intensity of arousal, something that makes you lose yourself. Maybe you want to dominate or to be dominated. We want sex to be fun, entertaining, adventurous. If you want a test – take away these concepts and note how you will likely stress out that sex is not being good any more.
If we think of sex as a peaceful place, a place of love and intimacy, we are most likely getting bored. We can not translate it into a vision of sex that is rich and plentiful. So on one hand we want to have an emotional connection in sex. On the other hand, as soon as we get there we feel we should be feeling something else, something fun and intensity related. We are not looking to feel that emotion in sex, that closeness in sex, we are looking to feel other things – because we believe that is what sex should be.
In fact, the feelings of emotional connection don’t take anything away from sex, they only add to it. We just have little practice in combining the two.
If we want to stop feeling emotionally disconnected in sex we need to look for those feelings of emotional connection in sex actively, and then we will end up creating them, if we know how. Nothing is possible if in real terms we are actually trying to feel something else.
This is the principal idea and the global approach in a professional healing Tantric massage, and it is an easy and direct way to create that new vision of emotional closeness in sex.
You can very easily change this in your life and have a fulfilling sex with a deep emotional connection and closeness. It is just a matter of learning and is easily accessible. Please read on in the menu at the top of the page.