Sex therapy and help with fear of penetration or anxiety about intercourse, in London

If you experience anxiety about intercourse or fear of penetration, then the Tantric body-centred alternative to sex therapy through Tantric massage is a very effective way to help – as it rewires the natural response of your body.

Women often have a fear of penetration or anxiety about intercourse.

It can have many causes:
Sometimes it is a result of <sexual trauma>
Sometimes it is general <anxiety about sex>
Sometimes it is a fear of <painful intercourse>
Sometimes it is general <dislike and discomfort> about sex

Fear of penetration doesn’t necessarily create a physical reaction, such as a painful contraction of the vagina. This can happen on the basis of anxiety about intercourse, and it can lead to <vaginismus>. If you have vaginismus, we would have to work with it specifically as the process has its own method. You can read about that <here>.

Assuming you don’t have vaginismus, the anxiety about intercourse can manifest as a general fear, discomfort, anxiety as you feel penetration approaching.

This fear can take over your head, make you unable to relax, make you unable to enjoy sex and connect to your partner, which is quite unpleasant as a sexual experience.

Sometimes this sort of anxiety about intercourse can make you disconnect in the intercourse itself, and feel numbness inside or even discomfort.

You may struggle to understand where this fear of penetration comes from. You may also struggle to control this anxiety. A lot of the time anxiety is a bodily reaction and not under your control to talk yourself out of it.

I have worked with many women who sought treatment for fear of penetration and anxiety about intercourse. The healing process that I do has generally been extremely successful.

The approach I take is to work directly with your body – what your body trusts, how it responds – and recondition your body to a direct positive reaction from this negative retraction. This is why the body-centred approach is so effective – you address the actual reaction in the moment.

We can work on this issue in two ways:

Through a tantric massage appointment

Through a consultation appointment

(if tantric massage is out of your comfort zone)

Please call me to discuss your particular issue. There are variations, and I can give you a more specific explanation of your difficulties, and a more specific solution that will work best for you.

How Tantric massage can help with fear of penetration and anxiety about intercourse

Learn a calming way of arousal

First of all, the way you get aroused is fundamental for how comfortable and safe you will feel coming up to the intercourse.

Many women think that they will push through this fear of penetration by getting really hot, passionate, intense, oblivious. They try vigorous and intense forms of arousal.

However, this creates a general tension and turbulence within your being at the delicate moment of penetration. This can contribute more to your anxiety about intercourse.

To treat the fear of penetration you need to do the opposite – the process of arousal has to be about calming your mind, relaxing and awakening your body to feel sexually alive but flowing and soft.

Your mind and body have to relax in the process of arousal.

Then when it comes to the intercourse you are in a calmer, more open and receptive state. You can seamlessly proceed in that state to the intercourse.

This kind of arousal needs a special technique and approach to your body which most women don’t know.

As a remedy for the fear of penetration, the Tantric massage is a journey where your body will go through this gradual arousal, through loving and nurturing touch, to feel fully awakened but calm and soft.

From this experience you will learn how to approach your body in sex with your partners to prevent anxiety about intercourse.

Learning to connect with your vagina positively

Then there is the moment when your vagina needs to connect, and this is where you experience the greatest fear of penetration.

The part of the Tantric massage named Yoni massage is focused on the vagina.

In this part I will teach you how to connect better within your vagina – they are special Tantric mental and emotional techniques.

By using these techniques you can create a feeling within your vagina that it trusts, opens, wants to connect, wants to feel, wants to be loved.

If you create this positive state within your vagina, this will take away your fear of penetration.

Yoni massage applied for anxiety about intercourse is to teach you these techniques. You can then use them with you partners.

Understand how the vagina needs to be treated

The Yoni massage as an alternative to sex therapy shows you another very important thing – how your vagina needs to be treated physically.

Much of vaginal stimulation in normal sex – and penetration in particular – is too aggressive and rough for the vagina. Not just by men, but women are also unaware of how their vagina needs to be treated.

This often creates a fear of pain or discomfort, which will cause anxiety about intercourse. Even if there is no physical pain, the aggressive treatment as a feeling already causes a degree of fear in the sensitive woman’s body.

The Yoni massage is only a massage with hands, but it shows you how the vagina really needs tone touched in a comfortable, nurturing and loving way. The vagina then releases the fear of penetration and you can take lessons from this to apply on your own.

More information on Tantric massage:

To understand more read full info on how Tantric massage therapy works for women’s issues.

In particular this problem is addressed with Yoni massage for anxiety about penetration.

Tantric massage may seem like a very unusual way to treat your fear of penetration, maybe even out of your comfort zone.

But if you think logically, it is the most effective.

But if you think logically, going through the body is the most effective way to address this anxiety.

In sexuality you can read and talk all you want but when the real moment comes your mind and body react instinctively – from their conditioning, habit, experience. They don’t remember what you talked about, they act from what they felt, what they trust, what they believe from experience.

Working with the body through Tantric massage:
– You learn from real experience in your body that there is nothing to be afraid of – but in a controlled, guided and supportive set up
– Your body receives profound healing from real sexual energy
– Your body creates new recent positive memories and opens in trust
– Your body begins to respond instinctively
– You gain control over your mind and responses in real practice

Working with direct responses of body and mind this is a profound transformation and healing. You become someone different, it’s not just reading or hearing an idea.

I have worked with a lot of client who had fears of penetration. My approach has been very successful and it treats the problem in a straightforward way.

We will simply needs to create a space for you where you feel safe to explore yourself. You will always be in control, everything will always be discussed beforehand, and we will need to make sure that this process is gradual, always optimally at your comfort level.

I have a well tested method and process to work with fears of penetration.

How my consultations can help you deal with the fear of penetration

When you have this uncontrollable reaction in the real moment of sex, it is much more effective to recondition this reaction in your body directly, through the bodywork.

However, if this is too much out of your comfort zone, you can choose to have a consultation appointment with me instead. I can give advice on what you can do at home on your own to deal with your particular difficulties.

As the next step please give me a call to discuss your problem, at no commitment. As with any healing process it is important to understand your specific situation and which solutions may work for you. I will be able to explain a remedy that would fit you in particular.

DISCLAIMER

I make it clear that I am not a qualified and accredited sex therapist.

In the UK the formal definition of a sex therapist is that of being a medical professional or a psychotherapist. These therapists are not allowed physical contact with a client.

I have explained why these approaches are limited for many people with sex problems, while they are very helpful for some.

I provide solution and / or improvement through an alternative approach to sex therapy that is explicitly based in the client being touched in a sexual / sensual way as a guided and educational experience. I do not use bodyworks that involve non-sexual touch, nor do I provide talking therapy. I make it clear that it is not accredited as conventional sex therapy.

My approach rests on giving you a safe and supportive environment to learn about a positive sexual approach and receive a healing effect from this journey.

I don’t treat medical conditions or psychological disorders. If you are in need of this kind of treatment, you have to see a qualified professional in those areas.

However, you are welcome to work with me in combination with those professionals to support your work.

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